Love-Seekin’ Jenna: Love Quests and Naughty Adventures

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay and I'm Jess, jess, and today's sizzling single is Jenna.

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Welcome, jenna.

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Thanks so much for having me.

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So you tell us that you are the queen of the crazies.

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We want to hear your stories about these pathological liars and these narcissists that you were telling us about.

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Yes, I don't know what kind of energy I'm putting out, but apparently it's that and no exes dating.

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I just feel like I don't know.

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I don't know why or who I'm finding but they are all the wrong people.

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Are you not learning your lesson?

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Does the universe keep sending you the same type of person because you're not listening and learning?

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your lesson.

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That is exactly it.

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That is literally.

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It is the universe, just like over and over and over again.

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And I feel like finally, I'm 45 years old and I have finally learned my lesson with these things, and I don't know.

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But yes, I have crazy, like crazy ex stories, crazy dating stories.

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So what's one of your craziest stories that stands out?

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I think well, okayest one.

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Most recently was a date.

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This guy seemed seemingly normal and I went out on a date and I found out he is a polyamorous Dungeons and Dragons player.

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Wow, what does that even mean?

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I?

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don't know, I had to.

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I had to Google it, cause I'm like what is polyamorous?

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Like I again, I'm not like a prude, but I don't know these.

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You know, I know what a swinger is, but I'm not like a prude, but I don't know these.

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You know, I know what a swinger is, but I'm like polyamorous, what is that?

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And so, yeah, so he has a girlfriend, and then the entire date and I'm like, okay, first of all, time out, like you know, sir Lancelot, this is not going to work, but it was like okay, but I'm curious, like I'm just curious, about how this works in your life.

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So he has a girlfriend and he apparently loves like renaissance fairs and totally playing like making like weapons and things like that and doing it's almost like LARPing.

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Lindsay, did we not just talk about this the other day?

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Live action role play.

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Is he a LARPer?

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I don't know, or what's the one where, like people, like the cosplay one that's LARPing yeah, the live action role play.

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They like dress up in their Renaissance gear and they go to a park and they have their wooden swords and they sword fight with each other.

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It's like the Civil War reenactment.

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Yeah, yeah, it's something like that, yeah.

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And so I'm like, again, I'm like but no, this is not.

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Are you sure he had a real life girlfriend and not just a Dungeons?

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and Dragons like a character in his video game girlfriend, like a virtual, I don't know.

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I didn't ask to see pictures, but I was very curious because I'm like who is this lady Right?

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So they were wanting you to join in on this.

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I see, and I think that's the difference, it's not like a swingers thing, I don't think, like it's not like a menage kind of situation, it was more like Like join our couple Kind of, do whatever, yeah and I yeah.

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I don't.

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I never really got into.

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I kind of put the kibosh on it immediately because I was like I'm not If I ask too many questions, think that I want to be a part of this queen or princess, like where do I like follow this situation?

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so yeah, I was just not not having that that's funny.

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I wonder if his girlfriend knows that he's going out on dates or if he's.

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I wonder if he's in a polyamorous relationship but she's in a monogamous relationship.

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He said that she knows okay and I think again like the polyamorous thing.

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I think that's like part of it, but I yeah, I don't know.

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That one is really weird.

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That was like the strangest one, where I mean just pure curiosity sake on that one, um, probably like, where were, where were you before you go to the next one, where were you on this date?

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Like, could, did you eat?

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Were you easily able to get out of the date or were you stuck a?

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while, no, no, it was like a happy hour thing.

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Okay, because I don't want to get you know I'm like a coffee happy hour person.

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I don't want to do full dinners and things like that.

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So he didn't indulge this over text message or when you're communicating online before you met him.

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That's what was so strange about it.

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But he immediately like led into it, got you.

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It was like okay, now that I've lured you here like the old bait and switch, you know, now I'm going to tell you.

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He's thinking I'm so cute, I'm going to be able to talk her into this.

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Well, and I think probably.

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It probably is like trial and error right, because if he's told women over text before and they always then don't agree to a date, they're like no, no, no, I don't think we're right for each other.

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He probably doesn't get a lot of actual dates if he tells women that beforehand.

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So he thinks I'll just wait until I get them in person and I'll tell them in person because right possession is 99% of the law.

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I'll share his exciting news with them His exciting news Congratulations, surprise, surprise, you've won the golden ticket.

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I was like, oh my god, no, no, I haven't.

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That's hilarious, funny.

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I think that, like the the worst one as of late, I went on like a golf date with somebody.

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I'm a big golfer.

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I'm not like an amazing, I'm not like Tiger Woods or Nelly Cord, I'm not a fantastic golfer, but I love golf and so I go on a golf date, thinking, worst case scenario, I get 18 holes out of this.

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You know, it's great, this guy, he was a pilot.

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I was telling you about this one, so he was a pilot.

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And I'm thinking they're the worst.

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Those pilots Stay away, Ron.

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I know, and you know, and it was like I was told for, like a major airline, but now looking back I'm like it was probably some regional airline you know the Spirit Air, no, just kidding.

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Let me guess, frontier, okay.

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And so, okay, he has a career.

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Okay, thinking normally he's a golfer.

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So I'm going on the state.

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He opens up with my RV, just burnt down, okay, and I'm like thinking, is it in your driveway?

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Like, did your house catch on fire?

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Like no, this is where I was, like, living, this is my home.

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It's an RV, and I'm like why is this guy living in an RV?

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And then he starts showing me photos of his dog, his dog that died in the fire.

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Oh.

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And I'm like what?

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Okay, we're like two minutes into this date at this point, and I'm like what?

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Okay, we're like two minutes into this date at this point, and I'm like what is happening here?

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And I, again, I'm like such an empathetic person.

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I'm like do you want my dog?

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Like I mean, I don't know what to offer you right now.

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You want to come over and walk my dog a couple times a week, and so that was just very odd to me.

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And then he's like well, now I'm living in this like basically house for like a crash pad a kind of.

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So that's very common for pilots.

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They just rent a room wherever they're based and they share a house with six, seven other pilots because they're always traveling.

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So it's pretty common, okay.

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So that's like a legit thing, like I was, like he.

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I in my mind I'm thinking it's some like halfway house for airline professionals.

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I'm like I don't know, maybe it's like a rehab center.

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I'm like I don't know what's happening at this point, yeah, and you know, in his defense I spoke to my husband about the RV and he's like that's pretty common if there's a pilot that isn't married with kids for him just to live in like an RV on some land because they're never home really.

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They travel all the time, especially if they love to travel on their time off, a lot of them.

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But if that's your life, like if you're living in a trailer, and so if your trailer and your dog is your life, right, Don't you think you should have your life together before you try?

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to date, but why wouldn't his life be together if he's living in a trailer?

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It burned down and his dog died.

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Like his life is not together.

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Yes, that was exactly my point to him Are you sure you should be dating right now, when you're living in a house with 10 other people.

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It's true, and I'm like you know.

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Is this really the good?

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point, because what is he going to bring you home, to this house full of 10 pilots?

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get your insurance money get a new, get a new trailer, yeah, find a great spot somewhere, yeah, and get a new dog, you know.

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Then maybe start dating exactly.

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Yeah, don't get me wrong.

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You can totally live in an rv and have your life together.

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If that's your life, that is your life, have it together.

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But this guy doesn't sound like he had his life together no apparently not I mean, and again it's like you know it's a 50 year old person, so I'm thinking you know you've got to have your life together at this point.

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So as the date goes on, then it's's like okay, so now we're golfing and everything okay.

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I have a very dirty sense of humor, like I have a pretty filthy mouth and a dirty sense of humor, but I can't show it on dates because men lose their goddamn minds and then it turns into a weird direction and all of a sudden they think and anything goes like with this conversation, and I said some I don't even know what I said, but everything after that this guy, any mention of a golf ball, turned into balls, dirty balls.

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Do you want to touch my balls do you want to clean my balls and it was like sounds like my health and I can appreciate, like I have that sense of humor.

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But I'm like good Lord, man, like come up with something else.

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And so it was just balls and balls, and balls and balls the entire time.

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And then at one point it was like he grabbed.

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Like as we're in the golf cart, he grabs my head and like goes and shoves it down.

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Oh no, like to his crotch.

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Oh, hell no.

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And it was like what about these balls?

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No, golly Wow.

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Was he drunk.

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I mean he had like a couple beers.

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But I mean I'm like, oh my God, like what have I gotten myself into, you know?

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Now it's like, okay, and then what do I say?

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Because I am not a confrontational person, so I am so uncomfortable at this point and it's like I mean we're on hole like seven, like we've still got a while to go here, and it's like, do I call and have them bring another card out, you know, do I have them take me back?

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I like how do I end this?

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And I still, I like I I'm like a trooper and I like kept golfing and it was just like yeah, yeah, yeah, finished out the back nine, back nine.

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I would have been like you know what listen?

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Um, yeah, that was, those were great nine holes.

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I don't think I'm gonna be able to finish this round.

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That's why you need your skate number.

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Yeah, I should have yeah, I should have feigned some like digestional like issue or something after nine holes and yeah, I should have called it quits but again, I was like I and I paid for my own round.

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So I mean, it's, like you know, know, a couple hundred dollars.

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I'm like I'll be damned if this guy and his ball comments are going to like cut me out of 18 holes here, but were you winning?

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So that was the other thing.

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I usually like I don't love keeping score because I get competitive with myself when I'm just like having a good time.

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A lot of times I don't keep score.

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And he was adamant about keeping my score.

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I'm like you, I don't want to, but go ahead like have at it like if you want to.

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And it was like and he and I could tell like he was getting annoyed on some of the holes that I was like beating him and so I don't know, maybe he had to like flex and then like shove my head in his crotch try to assert his dominance a little bit, because you were a better golfer than him.

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I don't know.

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It was that that one like truly as a whole was like the worst one.

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Did he let you tee off from the women's box, or did he did he?

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Did he insist that you both tee off from the same tee box?

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You know what we did?

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We started like from the whites, we did, and then I like moved.

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I kind of like go back and forth sometimes, depending on like how I'm playing, Uh-huh.

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But yeah, probably that probably pissed him off even more too, if you were if you were a teen hop from the same yeah it was just yeah, I mean, and I think I, I don't know I feel like over the years, like the I I'm like a tomboy at heart anyways, and I'm like competitive not with other people, like with myself, and like the feminine energy like over the years and of being like a single person is just like draining quick you know where like my like.

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I feel like my masculinity like that's like up there right now and I want to get it down, but I just need to find someone that like can allow me to do that so you said you have a lot of.

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You've had a lot of crazy golf trips or crazy travel stories.

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Do Do you like to travel?

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I do.

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I love to travel and I found that I just go by myself.

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Now, like none of my friends golf, like none of my girlfriends golf.

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We like play tennis together and I've even been like come on, people, there's like amazing spas, you can do a spa day, I'll go golf, and no one ever takes me up on it.

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So I just plan these trips, like during the summer, my um, my son is with his dad and I just like we'll do these like four day, like long weekend trips, and I just pick golf courses or concerts or things that I want to go to and I go by myself.

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So do you get hit on a lot at the golf course?

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Cause you're a beautiful woman and I know that golf is typically a male dominated sport, so I bet you get hit on all the time.

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No, I mean, and this is I was telling my friends this the other day I'm like, how hard is it for me to find a guy like I golf?

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I'm going out there all the time and golfing and like yes and no.

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I feel like I'm always paired up with like old men and then they're like, oh, my son lives out of state, you know.

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I'm like, well, okay, um, but even some of the courses around here, it's like the starters, like the people who work there, know me and they're like I'm keeping my eye out for you you know, yeah, you got a race plan matchmaker.

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Yeah, I know I'm like this is so sad that like these random people are doing that, but I don't know.

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And then I get.

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I'll get asked out a lot by, like, younger guys when I'm golfing, which is I'm in this weird age, I feel like, where these younger people ask me out, but I'm like I'm not you're not into that, because I know we were talking about how that's becoming a trend younger guys dating older women.

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Have you you've never tried that?

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Dabbled in that?

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I've done?

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like a couple, like golf dates with people and like I was golfing this one time with these two, like 20 somethings like their age together combined I don't think even matched my age like they were that young and like and I don't typically like I'm not a huge drinker, but we were like doing shots and like and it was just like we were having a good time.

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And then afterwards they're like come on, like let's go to the bar, and I just remember like I'm pretty lit at this point and I don't usually get like that it's like it was a cringe moment on my behalf like thinking, you know like're like, oh God.

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I can't believe I did that or said that.

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And it was like a Mrs Robinson moment.

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I was sitting, we're at this high top and I remember taking my foot and caressing this guy's leg next to me.

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To this day, this is like years later.

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My stomach hurts thinking about it.

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I'm like what was I doing?

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And they probably went home.

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Well, did anything?

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Did anything happen with either one of them, Did you?

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end up.

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I was texting my friend.

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I was like, went to the bathroom.

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I'm like I don't know what to do.

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Like these guys are like 25 years old, I'm like I don't know if is happening.

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Because that's probably what they were thinking.

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They were probably like you were in the bathroom and they were probably like dude, dude, we're totally going to take this lady home.

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This is a moment.

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Yeah, they like they were lassoing a cougar at this point.

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Oh my God, that's hilarious.

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I mean, I don't know.

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And so no, so nothing happened.

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I like got my wits about me and then I wake up.

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What are you doing right now?

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Well, because how old is your son?

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He's 10.

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Oh he's 10.

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Okay, so he's not so he's not old enough for you to be like oh my God, I would date someone that's my son's age but closer to he's getting old enough to where you would be dating men that were closer to his age than your age If they're in their early twenties.

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I don't want anything to do with that.

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There was another guy who was like in his 30s and I just kept looking at his socks and they had this horrible like ring stain of like kind of you know like on a collared, like white shirt, that ring around the collar thing, but it was like on his socks and I just kept thinking'm like yeah, but your socks, why are your socks so dirty, I mean.

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And then I'm like just stop, I can't, I can't, this isn't working so you had said I had a cringe moment.

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Have you ever had a cringe moment like I remember?

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One time, when I was super young and I was super drunk, there was this guy that I liked.

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We were sitting together and I started like licking his finger.

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I don't know why.

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I'm like thinking maybe that's what he likes and he was just staring at me like, yeah, no, why are you doing that?

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And it's not something I enjoy.

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I don't know why I even did it.

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What kind of eye was he putting?

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Was he putting off a finger sucking?

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I don't know, I don't know.

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He's like a finger in the face.

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But that's my cringe moment.

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I have to think like what the fuck was I thinking?

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I had that same moment in Vegas, though I sucked a guy's wedding ring off of his finger you did.

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My ex had a friend that would do that.

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His name was Carl and every time he would come out with us like we were always like fucking Carl, because he would take his hand and he would hold his hand up in front of his face and he would look at us dead in the eye and he would put his ring finger in his mouth, suck his wedding ring off and then spit it, spit it out across the room and we'd be like dude, what are you doing?

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Yes, like who is that for?

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For all the single ladies that might want to beg a married man that day.

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Like it was.

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So he's letting everyone know for tonight, I'm not.

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Yes, yes, yes, look out for Carl in Vegas.

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I shouldn't find Carl in Vegas.

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So you sucked a wedding ring off of a man?

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Yes, I did.

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Did he tell you to?

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How did this go down?

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I want it, Were you like you're not married to that baby.

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Yeah, I know I'm like my mom's going to be so proud of me Telling the story right now.

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Yeah.

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I'm sorry.

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What was the last part of that?

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What set up the story?

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Why did you do this?

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You know?

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what?

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How do I remember these details?

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I can't tell the thing had like it had the um the dry ice like literally like fog is coming out of it.

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I mean, come on setting the mood.

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What?

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How do you not suck a wedding ring off of somebody's finger?

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Oh, that's hilarious, yeah, no, I, I don't know.

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I mean it got to the point like it's like you're no longer allowed to go to Vegas, like I'm writing, like, my room number on my arm so I can get back there later on.

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It was like no, that's why the saying is what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

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Yeah, so not a proud moment, but it's not my cringe moment, though I don't feel like is not the leg rubbing on the 20 year olds.

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You're old, stop it, you're being inappropriate like what are you doing?

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that's funny so what are you looking for?

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Are you looking for a serious relationship?

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Are you looking to get married again?

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I think ultimately, yes, I mean I want, like I'm a long-term relationship person.

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I'm a relationship person, let's just put it that way.

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I've never really truly like dated.

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Dated, I feel like this is like the first time in my life that I have and I it is so weird and I don't know what to do or what to say or how, like I just don't know the rules anymore for it.

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And but yeah, that's what I want.

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I would love to find somebody who's a dad and has kids that are similar to, like my son's age, where, like I don't, I don't go out, like on these, like on dates recently it was like where do you want to go?

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And I'm like, is Blue Martini still a thing?

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Like I mean, it's places I haven't been to in like a decade.

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I don't even know.

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If you're a cougar or a swinger.

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I'm like is Barcelona still open?

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Like I yeah, I mean yeah, and so I mean I just don't go out a lot and I mean not that I don't like going out, but I'm just it's not in my you know I'm just a typical partner.

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Describe your typical your ideal man.

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I don't know, you know what it's like.

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I like I don't want to say like husky guys, but like manly guys I like a good beefy forearm to like hold on, to like on the armrest kind of thing.

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I don't know, I mean just somebody who's like handy, who you feel safe with, who's like kind of like can be like protective of you.

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I don't know, I love this whole beard thing going on lately, the beard trend yes, I like the beard trend.

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And then when they like shave it, it's like beard fish.

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I've never heard I haven't either.

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I kind of just made it up.

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I don't think it's a thing, some men do look so different without the beard.

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Yeah, can you put it back on please?

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I remember the first time my dad shaved his beard off and my niece was like three and she lost her mind, like she started crying, and so now, anytime he shaves his beard, he does it in front of the grandkids, so they can like see that it's the same person like it's still me, yeah yeah, yeah.

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So I wanted to touch on one last thing before we move on.

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But you had made the comment that you're now trying to find yourself again as a sexy woman, now that you're ready to date.

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Because I feel like, as mothers, we always put the wants and needs of our kids first.

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They're our priority.

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We forget about our wants and our needs, yeah, but I feel like it's so important for the health of the whole family for you to think of your wants and your needs.

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You know, and they do say, that adult relationships, a healthy adult relationship, really does help increase the health of the family, makes you happier and decreases the stress hormones in your life.

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You know.

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Yeah, no, I mean, it's a struggle.

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It's a struggle to find, I mean, between working and being, I mean, a single mom.

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I have, you know, basically custody of my son like 80% of the time.

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So it's really hard to turn that off and you get stuck in these ruts and routines and it's like, okay, wake up, get you know, pack a lunch for him, and it's everything is about them.

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And I find that, like the summer, when he goes away with his dad, it is like my release, it's like my time to just do whatever I want.

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And people are always like aren't you so sad when your son goes away and I'm like, no, like I can't get him to the airport fast enough.

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You drop him off at the airport and you're like freedom, truly, yeah.

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I mean I have a girlfriend whose custody is set up similarly.

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So he go.

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His dad lives out of state and when he has breaks from school, so four times a year, she get, he goes with his dad and she it's like she loves it because that's her free time.

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Yes, to have.

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I mean, it is it and it's so important.

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And there's been times where maybe the flights were too expensive over Thanksgiving and so he didn't go and I missed it.

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I was like, oh man, I had all these plans.

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I was going to lay in bed and eat ice cream and binge watch a show, and now I can't.

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So you mentioned you'd like to date someone that has kids, maybe a similar age.

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Do you find that it's challenging to date with a child, finding that time to go out when he is here?

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Yeah, I mean it is I have him all the time and he's getting to be like of the age where it's like I'm okay, like leaving him for a couple hours, you know, like that situation.

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But I mean, then you start talking about the babysitter situation where it's like is this guy even worth it?

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Do you ever watch the Seinfeld episodes where Elaine was like is he sponge-worthy and it's like that.

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It's like, are they babysitter-worthy?

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Speaking of babysitters, it's a good segue into are you ready for it?

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Our question this week is from Jeremy.

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He asks I'm going on a date this weekend with a girl I work with.

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She has two kids and someone had mentioned that offering to get her babysitter for the night of our date is something that is expected.

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Now, is this true?

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Am I expected to pay for the date and the babysitter?

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Have you heard of this?

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trend before.

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I have not, but I want in on this.

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I have.

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I have heard of this before but I want in on this.

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I have I have heard of this before of women, of women expecting, of women either expecting and not just a babysitter for the kids, of women expecting the man and I've had guy friends tell me this women will text them before the date and be like this is my Zell, or you can Apple pay me, like for the Uber to get to the restaurant or for the childcare for the night and guys are like, is this a thing now, like I'm expected to pay for the transportation or the babysitter.

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But my husband made a good point If he has kids he has to pay for his own babysitter, and now he's expected to pay for not only his babysitter, her babysitter as well, and herber and the date.

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That's expensive, I mean.

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I'm kind of thinking like how big of a slut is this lady?

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right, you know like it's just like.

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Is she having to get this many babysitters?

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and going?

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is she going on this many dates, all the time?

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right, right, right.

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I know I, I could never see myself asking I couldn't, if I, if I did, I wouldn't.

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That wouldn't be something that I would.

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I'm still like grabbing for the check like you know where I'm like can I, you know?

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Like hey, like I don't, I don't, you know, I'm always offering.

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I mean I, I think there's this part of me that thinks, like the guy especially they asked you out like I think they should pay, but I always offer like I.

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Just I was the same when I was single.

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I would always offer.

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So there's no way in hell I would have the balls to be like hey, here's my Uber.

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Yeah, I would never ask for it, if, if a guy offered and they were like, hey, can I send you some cash for a babysitter?

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Sure Thanks, that's great.

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That's really nice.

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You know what Thanks for the offer.

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Maybe just get dinner or just get the first round.

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Yeah, yeah, I think I would be more like that.

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I don't think I could ever accept it.

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I don't know, no, no.

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I can't speak because I don't have kids.

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I can't say what I would do, but like in my in my little like imagination, I'm like, I'm like, oh yeah, I think it'd be really cute, I'd accept the offer.

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but then I'm like, but would I?

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I have no idea.

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I, I, but see in my mind it's like someone offers something, I'm always like.

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What kind of strings?

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are attached.

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I know, yeah, now is he expecting me to put out later on because he paid for a babysitter?

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yeah, like I don't know, or like did he pay for a babysitter for six hours?

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But I'd really only rather spend like 45 minutes with the guy.

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Then what happens then?

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Do you have to like refund him?

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oh my god like do you have to send it back?

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Slope that one, it is it is?

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I think no.

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I think my answer to that question is no.

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You should not be expected to pay for the woman's child care.

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Absolutely.

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I mean, I guess if he has money and he wants to offer, great.

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But I don't think it should be expected.

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I don't think so, totally agree.

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So an article I wanted to discuss dot com for controversial dating opinions that shouldn't be controversial, according to a therapist.

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So one is it doesn't matter if you sleep with someone on the first date.

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I'm a big advocate of this.

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Why is there so much?

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Why is that taboo?

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Like, why do people judge people for putting out on the first date?

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Like, if you're on a date and the sexual chemistry is there?

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And like, how often do you go on a date with someone that you would want to bang?

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Not very often.

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So if we're all grown-ass adults, as long as you're safe about it and you know honest, like, why not have?

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I'm just devil's advocate.

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Why is it controversial?

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I don't know, I don't think it really is anymore.

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Well, maybe it is, I don't know.

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I know a lot of guys from when I was dating that judged women for putting out on the first.

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I could never have her as my girlfriend because she put out on the first date and like, I don't like that mentality.

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It's very judgy and misogynistic for me because you're doing just the same.

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So it got to the point where I would ask when I was on a first date I'd be like do you judge a girl if she puts out on the first date?

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Because if you're that close-minded, I don't want to get in a relationship with you.

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But my husband, I was like when you asked that they probably thought you were a slut and you put out on the first date all the time and I'm like that's why I was single for 12 years.

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But I just I never understood that, like maybe.

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I think maybe in Europe they're a bit more open-minded and when I moved to the States I was kind of baffled that when these guys start talking about how slutty these women are because they have sex on the first date, but I don't see myself personally doing.

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but to each their own.

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What do I care if somebody has or not?

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I'm not saying on every date, I'm not saying, if you go out on every single first date With the intention Like it's not the intention, yeah, I don't mean that.

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But I mean if there's the exception when you're having a great time and you're so attracted to each other, I don't see once in a while there's anything wrong with that.

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I don't think it's worthy of being judged for and not being um worthy enough to be classified as a girlfriend.

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I think, quite frankly, I would love if this situation were occurring more frequently for me.

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Right, if you could?

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I did have this much chemistry with somebody.

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It was like let's get to the parking lot now.

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If you had that dilemma, yeah, that would be amazing yeah.

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So the second one is you should be able to speak up about what you need or want as early as you'd like.

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So I think that's.

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I remember when I was dating I was very open, like with my husband.

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When we on our first day or before we went on a first day, I was like I want to get married, I want to have kids, like ASAP.

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And a lot of my friends were like you should never tell a guy that like so quickly, because it's going to turn him off, it's going to send him running for the hills.

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But if a guy doesn't want to get married and have kids and I don't want to waste my time, you know and he wanted the same thing within a month we moved in together.

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Within five months we were pregnant.

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Luckily it worked out.

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We're still together.

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Ten years later.

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I got lucky, but I don't think there's anything wrong with you.

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Know, like I remember I went on a date with a dentist and everything was there, great chemistry, but he didn't want kids.

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So I didn't go on a second date with him and he kept trying.

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I'm like, dude, you don't want kids.

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That's non-negotiable for me, right?

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So I didn't waste my time.

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But I think it's fine to talk about what you want straight off the bat, do you guys?

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think I think so.

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I think certainly at my age I mean tick tock like I don't have much time left.

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And so, yeah, I mean absolutely.

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Do you want to get married again?

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I mean I would, but it's not.

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You know, I feel like like when you're in your 20s and everyone's getting married and you're like, oh my God, I need to get married.

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And then it leads to all these people getting married to the wrong people and getting divorced Now not so much.

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I even like these people who aren't like cohabitating too.

00:29:38.309 --> 00:29:43.936
Like I'm like that's kind of an interesting idea where people like are just together and they don't even move in with each other anymore.

00:29:43.936 --> 00:29:46.186
I'm like I could see that too.

00:29:46.186 --> 00:29:53.922
I don't know, I'm totally it has like I just need the right person to come along and then, who knows, everything that I have just said now goes out the window, right.

00:29:53.922 --> 00:29:54.442
I don't know.

00:29:54.442 --> 00:29:56.444
I'm sleeping up with him on the first date.

00:29:56.684 --> 00:30:07.977
Exactly, and we're getting married the next day, and for that reason I think it's okay to talk about what you want and don't want on the first date, because it's like, if you meet someone that really, really, really wants to get married, it might be like, okay, well, hold the horses.

00:30:16.147 --> 00:30:17.249
Like I don't know if that's what I want.

00:30:17.249 --> 00:30:18.510
So it's good to be.

00:30:18.510 --> 00:30:24.644
Communication is key, to communicate everything that's on your mind, because I know like a lot, a lot of things go over men's heads.

00:30:24.644 --> 00:30:27.681
They just don't think and they'll be like well, I'm not a mind reader.

00:30:27.681 --> 00:30:29.184
Why didn't you tell me you know?

00:30:29.184 --> 00:30:30.086
So?

00:30:30.086 --> 00:30:33.942
The next one is you can introduce them to your friends as soon as you want.

00:30:33.942 --> 00:30:35.325
Like why would that be controversial?

00:30:35.325 --> 00:30:49.186
Like I think it's fine to make family maybe wait a couple dates, yeah, but I think friends, I'm fine on the first date, you know, introducing them to my friends, or me meeting his friends it depends I.

00:30:49.508 --> 00:30:50.911
My friends are like my family.

00:30:50.911 --> 00:31:02.702
I don't have a lot of like friends who I don't consider like super close to me, so I don't I do not introduce guys to my friends right away no what about you?

00:31:02.722 --> 00:31:11.901
I'm on the fence about this one because my friends, because I have such terrible, like I've made such terrible choices with men, that now, they're like you're not allowed to date you.

00:31:11.941 --> 00:31:16.271
Yeah, they're like you are not allowed to date anybody until we meet them, like yeah, that's funny.

00:31:16.460 --> 00:31:18.224
So now they've, they've put that out there.

00:31:18.224 --> 00:31:20.671
So it's like, now it's like I have to introduce them.

00:31:20.671 --> 00:31:22.095
But yeah, I don't know.

00:31:22.095 --> 00:31:26.066
I mean, I had something recently that I invited them like all my friends.

00:31:26.066 --> 00:31:27.809
We were like going to watch the Lions game.

00:31:27.809 --> 00:31:32.191
You know, I'm like, hey, if you want to like come meet us up there, because I kind of wanted them to meet him and see.

00:31:32.640 --> 00:31:49.531
You know, like what they're like in the wild, like and around other people, not just us staring at each other, like across like the table at a dinner and um, yeah, and they, like I don't know, they made up some reason of why, like they couldn't and so, but and then I, I was thinking I'm like, did they not come because they thought it was like too?

00:31:49.760 --> 00:31:53.372
soon to meet my friends, probably, oh, maybe yeah, I don't know.

00:31:53.452 --> 00:31:56.605
I mean for me I'm like I don't care, like but who knows?

00:31:56.704 --> 00:31:59.172
and the last one is if they wanted to, they would.

00:31:59.172 --> 00:32:00.102
Is too simplistic.

00:32:00.102 --> 00:32:01.486
You should never listen to that advice.

00:32:03.329 --> 00:32:07.369
Like if they wanted to like if he wanted to come watch the lions play on that day he would have.

00:32:08.401 --> 00:32:17.630
And I think it's more of like an effort thing, like women, women who are like oh, he's not calling every day, he's not initiating dates Like he wanted to.

00:32:17.630 --> 00:32:19.453
He would if he was interested, he would.

00:32:19.579 --> 00:32:24.500
I think, yeah, or like you know, if he wanted to go on that vacation he would have, but maybe he can't afford it.

00:32:24.500 --> 00:32:29.823
Or if he wanted to go out with you again, he would ask you out, but maybe he's, you know, struggling with something.

00:32:29.823 --> 00:32:30.324
I don't know.

00:32:30.324 --> 00:32:33.771
But they say you shouldn't listen to those words of advice.

00:32:34.520 --> 00:32:34.601
I.

00:32:34.601 --> 00:32:40.471
I'm struggling, though, with the text messaging, with the amount of communication that you're supposed to be having with people.

00:32:41.112 --> 00:32:41.633
I have no idea.

00:32:41.633 --> 00:32:45.971
I struggle with that too, because I'm not a very needy person when it comes to communication.

00:32:45.971 --> 00:32:53.227
I can go days without talking to someone and then talk to them and feel just as close and connected to them as I did the last time that I saw them.

00:32:53.227 --> 00:33:10.856
And I feel like people aren't like that anymore because the communication, the phones, are so just in our hands and so instant, and people feel like they have to have communication and access to you at all times and it's so.

00:33:10.856 --> 00:33:13.182
It's like people get butt hurt where.

00:33:13.363 --> 00:33:23.986
It's like you didn't text me yesterday and I'm like well, sorry or hate that when, like, they send a text and you're busy, and then they send a question mark and you're busy and they're like hello, yes.

00:33:24.006 --> 00:33:24.910
Like can I take a shower?

00:33:24.910 --> 00:33:26.837
Can I clean the kitchen?

00:33:26.837 --> 00:33:29.979
Like, can I do something before I pick up my phone and respond to your?

00:33:29.999 --> 00:33:30.339
message.

00:33:30.339 --> 00:33:34.673
Do you like it when guys message you in the morning Like good morning and you know good night?

00:33:34.974 --> 00:33:37.875
I don't know, I haven't gotten there.

00:33:37.875 --> 00:33:38.718
I don't know.

00:33:38.718 --> 00:33:40.612
I just truly don't know.

00:33:40.612 --> 00:33:41.292
I don't know what's.

00:33:41.292 --> 00:33:43.616
You know not enough.

00:33:43.616 --> 00:33:50.385
I think it would be sweet, it would be nice, but then it's like okay, we've gone on one date and like maybe that's too soon.

00:33:50.385 --> 00:33:51.431
I don't know what is that?

00:33:51.431 --> 00:33:54.019
Like a fourth date, and then they can start texting you in the morning.

00:33:54.019 --> 00:33:54.559
I don't know.

00:33:54.891 --> 00:34:27.994
I don't know what the rules, I don't know what any of the rules are anymore well, and the other thing too is a lot of times that the communication starts off really like strong and a lot and hot and heavy, and every day and all day, and then as it tapers, I think that's where the confusion comes in too, because it's like, once you've set the standard to be one way, where it's like constant communication and constant texting back and forth and calling and that, and then when it sorts to like naturally just slow down a little bit, I think people get freaked out because they're like well, if he wanted to, he would.

00:34:27.994 --> 00:34:29.516
If he wanted to, he would.

00:34:29.516 --> 00:34:30.916
If he wanted to text me, he would.

00:34:30.916 --> 00:34:33.594
So he must not want to text me, so I better go text somebody else.

00:34:33.594 --> 00:34:34.619
You know what I mean.

00:34:34.619 --> 00:34:38.721
And I think that sort of convolutes the whole thing too.

00:34:39.711 --> 00:34:43.614
So now it's time for the Celebrity Cup, where we marinate in the juices of the celebrity.

00:34:43.614 --> 00:34:46.940
So I feel like we have to talk about this, because every podcast is talking about it.

00:34:46.940 --> 00:34:48.043
You know what I'm going to say?

00:34:48.043 --> 00:34:58.179
Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds, or fake Lively and crying Reynolds, as they say, or baked Lively because she's cooked and crying Reynolds because he's fried his way into this.

00:34:58.179 --> 00:34:59.101
Do you follow that?

00:34:59.791 --> 00:35:03.378
Yes, I have been and I'm literally like, ooh, yes, let's talk about it.

00:35:06.869 --> 00:35:08.016
I'm like, obsessed too and like, so I follow Candace Owens.

00:35:08.016 --> 00:35:13.704
I don't know why I'm obsessed, and it's crazy how this has really caused this country to come together, because Candace Owens is very far right, isn't she?

00:35:13.704 --> 00:35:19.402
Yeah, yeah, very conservative, and all these liberals are now following her, like me, because she gives such great, you know recaps of it.

00:35:19.402 --> 00:35:29.996
Is she like?

00:35:29.996 --> 00:35:37.059
She was the one that started this lawsuit and she opened the can of worms, and now she's trying to put the gag order on his lawyer.

00:35:37.059 --> 00:35:42.360
And she came out with receipts that were doctored, and now he's come out with all these receipts to contradict that.

00:35:42.360 --> 00:35:47.972
Has a website with like all the text messages and all the emails yeah, the contradict.00:35:47.992 --> 00:35:50.443


that has a website with, like, all the text messages and all the emails yeah, the text messages I've totally been reading.00:35:50.463 --> 00:35:50.824


What do you think?00:35:50.824 --> 00:35:51.889


The one that's like never with teeth?00:35:54.074 --> 00:35:57.340


well, what's funny to me is that she accused him of sexual harassment.00:35:57.340 --> 00:36:11.260


But then you look at these texts and she's the one talking about suppositories, things going on up her butt, but he, ryan reynolds, is the one talking about getting one of the crew's face tattooed on his perineum, which is the place in between your butthole and your penis.00:36:12.230 --> 00:36:14.025


Thanks, for that anatomical definition.00:36:14.610 --> 00:36:18.922


But they're the ones and I am a nurse, I can confirm that is the correct terminology.00:36:19.070 --> 00:36:20.094


Did I pronounce it correctly?00:36:20.094 --> 00:36:24.157


Perineum or the gooch, you can call it that too.00:36:24.250 --> 00:36:31.172


I don't know what to say another name for it but it's just crazy to me how they're just as bad, you know.00:36:31.172 --> 00:36:41.456


And then like all the text messages or all the claims that she had, like she's like, oh, he walked in on me breastfeeding, but then there's a text that says, hey, if you want to go over lines, I'm just in my trailer breastfeeding, come on in.00:36:41.456 --> 00:36:45.030


Like there's so many texts that like go against what she's claiming.00:36:45.030 --> 00:36:55.820


There was a meme that I saw that said Blake Lively is in critical condition when she learns she needs evidence when going to court Cause like I feel like she has no receipts but he does, right.00:36:56.150 --> 00:36:58.518


Yeah, I have totally flip-flopped on this.00:36:58.518 --> 00:37:02.791


I feel like initially I like sided with her and I'm like man, this guy's terrible.00:37:02.791 --> 00:37:06.376


And then now I'm totally like I'm like team Justin right now.00:37:06.376 --> 00:37:17.117


And then all the like the stuff that's in Deadpool, like have you like all those comparisons of like yes, the nice pool thing and like and and correlating all of that now it's really petty.00:37:17.157 --> 00:37:23.376


Isn't it kind of pathetic, the extent that they went to like how childish are you and how like she thanks and the credits of it ends with us.00:37:23.376 --> 00:37:27.682


She thanks Gordon Reynolds, yes, who was the actor of Nice Paul.00:37:27.682 --> 00:37:30.827


Nice Paul was making fun of Justin Baldoni, but then the Taylor.00:37:30.847 --> 00:37:32.170


Swift stuff now, oh my God, yeah.00:37:32.170 --> 00:37:35.614


And now I'm sucked into this and I'm like does Taylor hate Blake?00:37:35.614 --> 00:37:37.697


Now Is she going to be at the Super Bowl.00:37:38.711 --> 00:37:43.853


Could that text where Blake's calling Taylor is Taylor?00:37:43.853 --> 00:37:46.969


Are they feuding now Will?00:37:46.989 --> 00:37:47.512


they be at the super bowl.00:37:47.512 --> 00:37:48.054


Got super bowl together.00:37:48.054 --> 00:37:49.338


Yeah, no, I went down the rabbit hole.00:37:49.338 --> 00:37:51.606


I'm totally on the side of the conspiracy.00:37:51.606 --> 00:38:05.463


I think blake lively fell in love with him I think, yeah, I think she fell for him on the set and got in trouble with her husband and this is her attempt to try to clean it up well, why else will?00:38:05.682 --> 00:38:08.155


why else would he request to see all the dailies?00:38:08.215 --> 00:38:13.061


all the edits from the day, and why else would he start showing up to set yes, right and watching her.00:38:13.201 --> 00:38:15.436


Yeah, so anywho, that's crazy.00:38:15.436 --> 00:38:17.338


Do you guys have any stories about shitty celebrities?00:38:17.338 --> 00:38:19.815


Have you ever met any celebrities that were so super rude?00:38:19.815 --> 00:38:20.699


I love hearing these.00:38:21.239 --> 00:38:22.061


No, I don't have any.00:38:22.061 --> 00:38:22.811


No, any, no, no.00:38:22.811 --> 00:38:26.306


I honestly I feel like out in in, like public.00:38:26.306 --> 00:38:27.751


I don't even think I would recognize somebody.00:38:27.811 --> 00:38:28.713


I don't think I would either.00:38:28.713 --> 00:38:29.474


I'm not.00:38:29.474 --> 00:38:30.197


I am too.00:38:30.197 --> 00:38:31.840


I am not paying attention like.00:38:31.840 --> 00:38:34.856


I am not, so I have a couple so do you know Isla Fisher?00:38:35.416 --> 00:38:37.061


yeah, she was in Wedding Crash.00:38:37.061 --> 00:38:40.460


So she was big in Australia and in Europe before she was big here.00:38:40.460 --> 00:38:48.320


And I used to serve at an Asian restaurant in London when I was in college and she came in in the morning she was the only one in the restaurant and was just like get me a glass of orange juice.00:38:48.320 --> 00:38:51.155


She was so rude and I was like okay, she's like, but is it fresh?00:38:51.155 --> 00:38:52.056


Is it freshly squeezed?00:38:52.056 --> 00:38:52.980


I was like yes, it is.00:38:52.980 --> 00:38:54.713


She's like, well, I don't want it if it's not freshly squeezed.00:38:54.713 --> 00:38:58.853


Like she just had major attitude and I confirmed yes, it's freshly squeezed every day.00:38:58.853 --> 00:39:02.179


And I gave it to her and she's like are you sure this is freshly squeezed?00:39:02.179 --> 00:39:05.266


Like she kept going on about it like in a very negative tone, you know.00:39:05.266 --> 00:39:07.773


So she's one celebrity that I was just.00:39:07.773 --> 00:39:09.077


Was this like post wedding?00:39:09.077 --> 00:39:10.021


Like, was she famous?00:39:10.021 --> 00:39:12.110


This was sorry, this was in 2001.00:39:12.110 --> 00:39:13.153


So this was.00:39:13.153 --> 00:39:15.364


She was famous in England and Australia.00:39:15.364 --> 00:39:20.320


She was in a show called Home and Away, but she wasn't famous in the US yet oh, interesting.00:39:20.800 --> 00:39:21.963


And then I have another one, robby.00:39:21.989 --> 00:39:23.411


You know Robbie Williams, the English singer.00:39:23.411 --> 00:39:24.534


I don't know if people know him here.00:39:24.653 --> 00:39:26.838


No, he was in Take that.00:39:26.838 --> 00:39:28.981


I know one of his songs.00:39:29.061 --> 00:39:30.804


Yeah, angel, it was a big song here.00:39:30.804 --> 00:39:33.599


I think Jessica Simpson came out with it and he covered it, I don't know.00:39:33.599 --> 00:39:40.559


Anyways, I was heartbroken because I was a big Robbie Williams fan and I was in Tokyo and I was 14 years old at a nightclub.00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:52.512


Don't ask why I was so excited.00:39:52.512 --> 00:39:54.815


He's like, yeah, and so what?00:39:54.896 --> 00:39:56.920


I was so devastated I had.00:39:56.920 --> 00:39:58.262


This is such a stupid story.00:39:58.262 --> 00:40:21.391


There was, like what I grew up in in Michigan and so there was this one um radio show that was on in the mornings that I like always listened to, and it was like these two like older guys, like they were like the hosts of the show and they were doing a CD signing at like a Best Buy somewhere, and I like stood in line and the entire time I'm like just say something funny, like come up with something really good so they'll remember you and talk about you or something like I don't even know.00:40:21.391 --> 00:40:26.177


I wanted to impress these people and I got up there and like handed them the CD and was like can you sign it?00:40:28.440 --> 00:40:32.666


it was like and then I like walked away and I was like damn it, like I was so upset about it.00:40:32.726 --> 00:40:34.856


You know, yeah, didn't you hate those moments?00:40:34.856 --> 00:40:38.273


And you kick yourself off, yeah, and then I'm like what did I think was gonna happen?00:40:38.452 --> 00:40:40.940


yeah, like they were gonna fall in love with you or something.00:40:40.940 --> 00:40:42.130


Yeah, they're like old.00:40:42.130 --> 00:40:43.172


Yeah, it wasn't even.00:40:43.172 --> 00:40:44.375


Yeah, it was so strange.00:40:44.394 --> 00:40:52.931


I don't even know what my, but they were hilarious and I appreciated that so do you have a favorite date spot, like restaurant or bar or that you love, meant to?00:40:52.972 --> 00:40:53.472


take you to.00:40:53.472 --> 00:40:59.554


No, I do not and I actually, out of my own suggestion, I went on a date to Costco recently.00:40:59.554 --> 00:41:00.096


Wait what?00:41:00.356 --> 00:41:02.282


yes, shopping at Costco, but for the free sample.00:41:02.342 --> 00:41:08.400


I thought it was this kind of genius like on my behalf, because it was like I've got things I need to get there.00:41:08.400 --> 00:41:19.981


They've got things they probably need to get there, and then you're not awkwardly like sitting across from one another and it was like we've got a cart and then if it goes horribly, it's like see you later or it's like you want a slice of pizza.00:41:20.550 --> 00:41:33.976


That's genius and actually afterwards we ended up like putting our stuff in the cars and then we met up and like went to dinner afterwards, but it was like, it was like a nice little chatting, like you know, and then you get to see like what are you getting like and can we?00:41:34.036 --> 00:41:35.400


split this like you know.00:41:35.420 --> 00:41:39.844


Because you know how it's like such, I don't need this much toilet exactly, exactly.00:41:39.903 --> 00:41:42.472


You can't go to Costco and spend less than $200.00:41:42.472 --> 00:41:43.153


I know, yeah.00:41:43.494 --> 00:41:44.697


I know that is true.00:41:44.697 --> 00:41:47.931


It would be a good test, Like can you afford to shop at Costco?00:41:47.952 --> 00:41:53.394


So yes, absolutely strange and bizarre, but this person was like down for it and I'm like hey, two birds one stone.00:41:53.394 --> 00:41:56.391


I'm going on a, you know, potentially horrible date, but at least I get my light.00:41:56.411 --> 00:42:08.434


Grocery shopping done Also, costco pizza is like, so good it's so good, even their hot dogs, isn't it like a dollar 50 for a hot dog and a soda?00:42:08.434 --> 00:42:09.356


Yeah, yeah, jackpot, yum, you know what I like.00:42:09.356 --> 00:42:09.898


Have you been to the yard?00:42:09.898 --> 00:42:10.318


It's sam fox, right.00:42:10.318 --> 00:42:12.726


I love the yard because they have great cocktails and great appetizers.00:42:12.726 --> 00:42:13.851


They're um cheese fondue.00:42:13.851 --> 00:42:14.333


I love cheese.00:42:14.333 --> 00:42:15.036


I'm obsessed with it.00:42:15.036 --> 00:42:19.376


And then you have games there too, so you can play cornhole and I think they have ping pong.00:42:19.376 --> 00:42:22.934


Like you can have a little bit to eat a little bit to drink, you can play games.00:42:22.994 --> 00:42:24.117


a bit of everything I.00:42:24.117 --> 00:42:25.179


I kind of like that.00:42:25.179 --> 00:42:26.782


Yeah, good spot.00:42:26.782 --> 00:42:30.619


I think it's time to ask Jenna a truth or dare.00:42:30.619 --> 00:42:33.295


Oh boy, are you down for the meat grab?00:42:33.737 --> 00:42:39.699


I know we haven't even seen much of this potty mouth that you forewarned us about.00:42:39.719 --> 00:42:40.760


I know, I'm sorry.00:42:41.222 --> 00:42:42.023


She better watch.00:42:42.043 --> 00:42:43.065


She'll get like a tame one.00:42:43.065 --> 00:42:44.836


She'll get the most vanilla question.00:42:53.829 --> 00:42:57.559


Okay, and watch, she'll get like a tame one, she'll get the most vanilla question, okay, so I'm just I'm just reading this, yeah, okay.00:42:57.559 --> 00:42:59.083


Have you ever accidentally sent a sext to the wrong person?00:42:59.083 --> 00:42:59.364


No, I have not.00:42:59.364 --> 00:42:59.826


Have I sent a sext?00:42:59.826 --> 00:43:02.612


Yes, yes, I have, but not to the wrong, but not to the wrong person.00:43:03.474 --> 00:43:22.039


I never sent a sext to the wrong person, but when I first, when I first moved here to Arizona in 2012, I had this guy that I was dating back home, who ended up moving here also, and we like tried to make it work and it didn't work and we ended up breaking up.00:43:22.039 --> 00:43:34.643


And as we were breaking up, I remember he texted me something and I didn't know how to respond to it and I screenshotted it to send to my friend to go oh my god, can you believe he's asking me this?00:43:34.643 --> 00:43:35.771


What do I even say?00:43:35.771 --> 00:43:37.414


And I sent it back to him.00:43:37.414 --> 00:43:39.818


Yes, I sent it back to him.00:43:39.818 --> 00:43:44.152


And I am like traumatized by that and I have.00:43:44.152 --> 00:44:03.255


I I check my screenshots every single time, like, even if they're, even if they're not incriminating, even if they're not talking shit, like even if it's just like I'm screenshotting something to send to my mom or something like I check to make sure I'm sending it to the right person, because I'm, like traumatized.00:44:03.637 --> 00:44:22.972


I have a friend we had, we did a trip together, a group of friends, and we had a shared album and one one of the girls sent a picture to the shared album of her with the dildo, like my legs open she shared it to the wrong album or did it accidentally and my husband called her right away and was like I think you sent that to the wrong album and she was fucking mortified.00:44:23.574 --> 00:44:27.503


Like it was like six in the morning and I'm like I think everyone's still sleeping.00:44:27.503 --> 00:44:28.414


I think you're good.00:44:28.414 --> 00:44:31.193


That is my worst nightmare, or do you just like own?00:44:31.253 --> 00:44:33.422


it and you're like no, it was supposed to go to all of you.00:44:34.492 --> 00:44:36.056


I wanted to show you how much fun I'm having.00:44:36.076 --> 00:44:37.740


Good morning, what do you think?00:44:37.740 --> 00:44:41.512


Do I bleach down here Like is my labia holding up?00:44:41.512 --> 00:44:43.114


How's it looking?00:44:43.114 --> 00:44:44.237


I don't know.00:44:44.237 --> 00:44:54.815


Yeah, I mean, I have gotten like the dick pics, though, which I've always been firmly against dick pics, I'm like why do I want this?00:44:54.815 --> 00:44:58.219


But now I'm like I feel like maybe I do.00:44:58.320 --> 00:44:58.880


I don't know.00:44:59.050 --> 00:45:04.800


Can you put like a dollar bill next to it, so I like get a good idea of like the size too.00:45:04.800 --> 00:45:08.572


You know, because now I'm like I'm like, great, what if I meet this guy?00:45:08.572 --> 00:45:13.782


We have great chemistry and then I come to find out like well, I think there is a way.00:45:13.869 --> 00:45:16.375


There is a way to tastefully send a dick pic.00:45:16.375 --> 00:45:18.458


There is, there is.00:45:18.458 --> 00:45:20.882


How do you make a little bow?00:45:20.923 --> 00:45:27.184


around no no, well I mean, if you could send a dick pic, how would you.00:45:27.706 --> 00:45:30.253


I mean unsolicited or like.00:45:30.253 --> 00:45:40.282


I mean I just feel like there's an, there's an energy, there's like a banter back and forth to where it's like like there is an appropriate time to send a dick pic.00:45:41.052 --> 00:45:51.780


I feel like what I don't know, maybe if you're sexting like if you're, maybe if you're sexting Like if you're sexting, if you're sexting and the girl's kind of in the mood and kind of yes, there is an appropriate time.00:45:52.380 --> 00:45:54.331


Most of the time it's it's inappropriate.00:45:54.331 --> 00:46:00.416


So it's funny because I actually have a dick pic on my phone right now and it wasn't sent to me, it was sent to my friend.00:46:00.416 --> 00:46:13.251


So this is the only thing about dick pics guys, if you're going to send a dick dick pic, just know that if the girl isn't asking you for it, it's probably going to get sent to all of her friends and they will all make fun of you forever for it.00:46:13.251 --> 00:46:25.222


So, like, I still have this dick pic that this guy sent my friend he I don't think he even said anything, I think he sent the pic and his address and that was it.00:46:25.222 --> 00:46:27.885


Wow, and do your shot.00:46:27.885 --> 00:46:38.210


And to this day I still have this picture in my phone and his nickname is long dick schlong and we and we talk about him all the time and it's so funny.00:46:38.572 --> 00:46:52.751


but like that, that's an inappropriately sent you miss all the shots you don't take I don't know, like, my friend used to get a ton of dick pics tons and then I started like getting like butthurt about it because I'm like how come nobody's sending me any dick pics?00:46:52.851 --> 00:46:54.438


I know I don't get them often.00:46:54.617 --> 00:47:13.210


But when we in prescott for rochelle's bachelorette party and we did like a post, it's like, hey, if anyone wants to buy the bachelorette, a shot, you know, venmo us five bucks, yeah, and this guy venmoed how much 20, 20 bucks and a dick pic and a dick pic appropriate, appropriate that isn't, that's yes, that's inappropriate, and it was a nice one.00:47:15.416 --> 00:47:16.538


I've had people send me.00:47:16.538 --> 00:47:23.809


I have a friend that sent me like a screenshot from her camera roll, but all the other cab, you know how they have all the other and there were naughty pictures in there and.00:47:23.829 --> 00:47:26.135


I'm like oh man, I didn't have the heart to tell her.00:47:26.135 --> 00:47:27.117


Next time maybe.00:47:27.117 --> 00:47:29.442


Uh, do you have any other questions?00:47:29.442 --> 00:47:30.423


Do you have any other questions?00:47:30.423 --> 00:47:32.474


No, I don't think so.00:47:32.474 --> 00:47:33.556


That's a wrap.00:47:33.556 --> 00:47:36.451


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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.00:48:00.034 --> 00:48:07.097


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture so I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:48:07.097 --> 00:48:09.242


His wife just reached out to me.