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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married With kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is an absolute slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Pete.

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Meet Pete.

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Welcome.

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Thanks for being here.

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Thanks for having me.

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It's good to be here.

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You have some crazy dating stories, including a first date where the woman grabbed your crotch.

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We want to hear that story.

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Yeah it.

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You know, the thing about that date is that it started off fantastic.

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You know, we got along great, and normally I'll just for a first date I'll do a coffee or, like you know, one drink, and so that's what we planned.

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There was a happy hour and it was great.

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Everything was good Beautiful smile, wonderful woman.

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We got along great and so had dinner and then decided to go see a band and dance and everything.

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Well, we get to this place and she just flipped, like I don't know if she did drugs or something during that date, but it was bizarre.

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She just did and she just kind of started, I don't know, getting really weird, and so I'm like, okay, it's time for us to go, and I wasn't going to let her drive home because she clearly was in no good state, and so that's a really long story.

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But eventually I finally get her address and bring her home.

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And then she couldn't get in her house.

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She couldn't get the key in the door and all this stuff.

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Oh my God.

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It was just oh my God, it actually is even worse than that.

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I'll tell you this part I shouldn't.

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So we pull up into her driveway and she takes off her seatbelt and jumps basically across my seat and starts making out with me.

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Right, and I'm just trying to.

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I'm like whoa, no, right.

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I mean, look, she was beautiful and everything, but like the end of that.

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Had it been just the drink and we end up at her house, that may have been different, but it was really awkward at this, at this, you know live band thing.

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So anyway, I'm sitting there trying to get her off me, her garage door opens and there's her son staring at us.

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Oh yeah, Is she still on top of you at this point?

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Yes, oh cringe.

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I know how old is her son?

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Oh, he was probably 17, 18.

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Oh, how embarrassing.

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Although he's probably seen this before I'd imagine.

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I was gonna say the same thing I.

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I have a feeling he probably.

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This probably isn't the first time he's seen something like this, for you well.

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So I'm like, you know, I kind of I'm like your son, your son, and so she's like, oh my gosh, she was so embarrassed.

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She's like move.

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So so I moved over.

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You know, I moved all the way her son backs out and leaves, and then, you know, I pull back into her driveway and I'm like, okay, I got to get out of here, like this date needs to end.

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And so she gets out and then, like I mentioned, she's fumbling getting her keys in the door.

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So I get out and go up to the door, help her keys, and then she sticks her hand down my pants.

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So it wasn't over the clothes?

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No, she actually puts her hands down your pants?

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Oh no, it is.

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It wasn't over the clothes.

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She's feisty.

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Let's just say there was a firm grip.

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A firm grip, yeah, so there's no getting away from this, right I mean, oh yeah, it was not good, so finally I got out of there.

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Oh yeah, it was not good, so finally I got out of there.

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And yeah, it was not good.

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The important question is did she still want you to stay and hang out after the hand down the pants?

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Because, like was she doing a size check?

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She was like am I going to?

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invite this guy to stay overnight, yes or no?

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Well, so the add-on that I left out of the story.

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She's like we are going to fuck and I'm like, oh no, we are definitely not.

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I can't believe we're opening this segment with this story.

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These two guys are crazy, so this is so not me, but yeah, so I ended up?

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yeah, I got out of there and no, we did not Was there a second date.

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So she called me the next day, kind of oblivious, like I don't think she remembered anything.

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After dinner and I told her in detail what went down and she was horrified.

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She's like you know what you know, let me make it up to you.

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You know we got to.

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She's like that's not me.

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You know, I don't know what happened.

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I'm like I think I've had enough.

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I think I'm good Interesting.

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Did she have a lot to drink on the day?

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We had one drink pre-dinner.

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We we shared a bottle of wine.

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So what does that?

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Maybe two glasses, yeah, and then you know, then there was a span of time before we got to the band and she hadn't even drank her vodka soda, so it wasn't that much.

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That's what.

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I'm saying I think she and like I don't think she was roofied by someone, because I was there the whole time it was she went to the bathroom and the only thing I can assume is that she, maybe she did shrooms or something Like there has to be assume is that she maybe she did shrooms or something like she has to be something to fuck around real quick.

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Yeah, I mean this it was bizarre.

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Yeah, yeah, I can't believe.

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You opened with it.

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That's a good story, so tell us about you.

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What do you enjoy doing?

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What are your hobbies?

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What are you looking for?

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yeah, so I am.

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I'm a pretty active person.

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I uh, I love the sun that we have down here in Phoenix and I like being outside, be it happy hours.

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I run two to three days a week with my dog and I go to the gym a few times a week.

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I'm very involved in hockey.

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It's probably my favorite pastime.

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Hockey or ice hockey, ice hockey.

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Okay, yeah, those of us from the north.

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Well, in England, you know, we play field hockey.

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Yeah, no no, it's a good qualifying question.

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Yeah, no ice hockey, so I spend.

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Uh, I have season tickets to ASU and my son plays hockey on two different teams and so um and you like to travel.

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You've had a lot of crazy, fun travel stories.

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I have.

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Yeah, I do love to travel.

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I travel a lot for work and um and.

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But you know, personally I love to travel.

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I travel a lot for work, but personally I love to travel too.

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Yeah, I had a great trip to Europe where, just randomly, I ended up seeing Pearl Jam in Budapest.

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So that was your divorce vacation, right?

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Yes, yes, so tell that story.

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It's an interesting story, yeah it's great.

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So I went with a friend and our plan was, you know, we were just kind of looking at cost of everything, and so our plan was to fly into Munich and then take a train to Budapest and then fly to Amsterdam and then home from Amsterdam.

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great trip, right, great cities because, because, when you get divorced, the first place you need to go is Amsterdam, the number one spot in the world to go after your divorce.

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It's like, it's like divorce trip Amsterdam well, I'm not interested in that.

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But, yes, amsterdam is a great town, by the way, I love Amsterdam.

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But so we were in Munich and our plan was three nights there and then two nights in Budapest and then two nights in Amsterdam.

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Well, after two nights in Munich where we didn't get to the back to the hotel room to like four or five in the morning and, by the way, this is like you're not going to see me at the clubs in Old Town or anything like that, but you know, when you're in Munich, you do as they do.

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You know we'd get up and run in the morning and then, you know, spend all night.

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But after a couple nights we were tired of this, so we decided to split the trip and go to Vienna, which was great, and then we went from Vienna and on the way down to Budapest, we got an announcement on the train that there was an accident up above and the train couldn't get us all the way to Budapest, so they were going to drop us off at this little village that I'd never heard of.

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So we started talking to the people around us and there ends up being seven of us France, germany, italy, croatia.

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I mean, there was like just this eclectic group, and we decided okay, all of us are going to look for a way to get from this village to Budapest.

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And you know, but you have to find for seven, it's all for one, one for all.

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So this woman from Italy gets this, gets, finds this way.

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So before we get to this little village, we're set.

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There's the hotel sending a van out to pick us up.

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Well, they dump this train of 900 people probably off in this little village that probably only had, like your hometown, like a thousand people in it.

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Right, so it was mayhem.

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The train just went back the other way.

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There's no buses, there's no Uber, there's no taxis.

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Everybody's stuck here trying to find their way home.

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But we're already set.

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So this guy named Martin goes into this little tiny gift shop, buys all the beer they have and it was a beautiful day we sit out on this picnic table and, uh, are drinking beer, getting to know each other, and then he looks across at the two of us.

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He's like hey, I have two extra tickets for Pearl Jam tomorrow night if you want to join us.

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And we're like, yeah, so why?

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not yeah, exactly, so it was awesome yeah, that's awesome yeah so do you have any unique talents or unique facts that not many people know about you?

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um, you know, I I don't I guess one thing I uh, I mean most people know this, but I'm adopted, um had raised by a great family, just it was awesome.

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I wasn't want for anything.

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But maybe about six years ago my ex-sister-in-law gets the entire family a 23andMe test right.

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So I take the test more to find out kind of some medical background which I know nothing about and I find you know one of the results come back.

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I don't know if you've ever taken these things but like a typical, I've done one on my dog.

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Oh, wow.

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It's gotta be the same thing, it's totally the same thing.

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Well, most people related to you are like less than 1% related.

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I mean, you and I are probably less than 1% related, like there's just nothing.

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But I had one person 25% related and it and it said and then it predicts like what your relationship is Right, and it says grandson.

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I'm like okay, I know.

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I'm like okay, I've done a lot of crazy shit in my life, but I know I don't have a grandson, right, that's funny.

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So.

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But I reach out to the person and they never responded.

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And then time goes on.

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I decided to log back in and, based on all the new people related, related to me that have entered in it, changed that to half brother and I'm like, whoa, now I'm really interested.

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So I started digging in and doing all this stuff and fast forward.

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I end up in San Diego for a hockey tournament with my son and while there I find my birth dad and he lives on Coronado Island.

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Like, literally, I'm in San Diego and he lives on Coronado, and so I met him the next day.

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Oh, how cool.

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That's very cool yeah.

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And so we have a great relationship.

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I see him all the time, and then, just about four months ago, I found my birth mom.

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Oh wow.

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Yeah so yeah, so it's been really cool.

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She lives in Tennessee.

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So are both of your birth parents and your adopted parents.

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Are they all still alive?

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My mom passed away, just like the October prior to COVID or September.

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But no, my dad's 87, lives in central Minnesota, so it's still golfs every day and, yeah, well, every day you can in Minnesota, so I wanted to touch on this.

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So you said you were married for 20 years but you had said after the first two years you and your wife never kissed, she was not affectionate with you.

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And how long did you go without sex?

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Well, I mean it was pretty benign when we did, you know, missionary in bed at night, lights off, you know it was.

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But I mean there would be periods of time, it would be over a year.

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That's crazy, I know.

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Yeah, it was not ideal and she's a great person, a really good human being, a wonderful mom, but you know, I just you know, the compatibility just wasn't there.

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Is that why you ended up getting divorced?

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Yeah, I just, you know, the compatibility just just wasn't there.

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Is that why you ended up getting divorced?

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Yeah, I mean, ultimately, it just you know, and there was.

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There was some things.

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It was interesting my, my cousin, who I'm extremely close to, she lives in Fort Collins, colorado, and she got married over COVID, or remarried, I should say, over COVID, and and so they didn't have a party then, of course, and, but after COVID she had a party, and this was right after I had moved out.

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We weren't divorced yet, but we were going through the process and I went up for their wedding reception and like I saw all these people I hadn't seen in two, three years, and they were all like this is the person that we've missed all these years.

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And so I think I was so out of place and unhappy in in that um, that it and in that marriage that it just I became a person that that I wasn't um, normally and and and and and.

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So it's just been really like a huge weight off my shoulders and and it's it's been, it's it's been good to enjoy life again.

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Yeah, did you guys get married young.

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No, In fact I was, I was old, I was, I was well, I was 30 when we got married and then um.

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We didn't have kids until I was 39.

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Interesting.

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Yeah, and was like were was intimacy.

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Were you guys good with intimacy at the beginning?

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No, and it changed, or was there never.

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There was never really was there, there was never good intimacy.

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You know, before I met her I I had been cheated on by my two previous girlfriends and and then I met this woman who's you know very loyal, great values, you know strong, good person, and it was so refreshing from what I had been through that I kind of thought, you know, that isn't important.

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Yeah.

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You know, all these other values, alignment and all these other things are more important and you know, I lived and learned.

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So how long ago did you get divorced?

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Let's see.

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I guess it's officially been two years.

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I moved out four years ago.

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So you feel you're finally ready to get back in the saddle and start dating.

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Oh for sure, Definitely.

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I um, you know, I did the whole dating app thing for a while.

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I haven't been on a dating app for probably six months, Um, and so I have been out dating.

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I did date a woman for about a year, a wonderful person, but she lives in Austin, Texas, and the distance just she wasn't going to move here, I wasn't going to move there and we had to make the difficult decision.

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So what is your ideal partner?

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What are you looking for?

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I'm looking for someone who's active, who's willing to try new things.

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I probably wouldn't fit real well with somebody who's tight and rigid and needs to be controlling.

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You know I want to take an interest in their interest.

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I want them to be willing to take an interest in my interests.

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You know somebody, open communication is really important to me.

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I'm a pretty open person.

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I don't leave much in the dark, and you know that communications but I generally just really want to enjoy life.

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I kind of look at life like you know, you can't do anything about yesterday, so there's no sense really living with regret.

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We don't know if we're going to be here tomorrow, so we just really need to enjoy every single day that we're on this earth and I kind of want somebody to share that philosophy.

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Now.

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I think it's important to plan for the future but live for today.

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But no, I really do try to do that.

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I think it's amazing.

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I think we're so blessed to live in this incredible city and I just really enjoy every day.

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I'm alive.

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So you had told me, so that you've been catfished before, right?

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Oh my gosh.

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Yeah, From the apps.

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Yes, when you were on the apps.

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That's probably why I was not on the apps anymore, yeah, you know, most of the people I met on the apps were really good people.

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There just wasn't a connection for one reason or the other.

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But this was the very first person who I started communicating regularly with on an app.

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So I'm fresh out of, I'm not.

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In fact, I wasn't even officially divorced yet at this point.

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I had moved out, I'd been living on my own for a little while, but this woman and I start texting and she was a.

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She was a triathlete, and so we could never meet because she was always with her running coach or her biking coach or and it should have been a red flag.

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I mean, I've learned a lot since then.

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Yeah, but we talk on the phone all the time and anytime I would want to do like a FaceTime, for whatever reason, it didn't work out.

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Again, another red flag.

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Well, anyway, eventually, a few months later or a couple months later, I should say we finally decide to meet and she gets there like a half hour early and I'm like I haven't even left home yet and so I'm like, okay, well, I'll see you there.

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She's like hey, I'm sitting at the bar, come find me.

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Well, this place we met had this huge bar, like it probably seats 50 people.

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And so I walk into this door and I walk all the way around the bar, all the way back.

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I don't see this woman anywhere.

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I'm thinking maybe she's in the restroom or something Right.

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And so I go to this high top next behind the bar, and this woman stands up and she's like you know, hi, don't you recognize me?

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And I'm like I'm literally.

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The first thing in my mind is that she's got me to have to have me mixed up with a different somebody else yeah.

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She looked nothing.

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I mean, look I you know I respect all individuals and everything, but she represented herself as this fit triathlete and let's just say that the person that stood up in front of me, it would be humanly impossible for a person of that dimension.

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He's trying to be so politically correct.

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I know To run a mile, much less do a triathlon.

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There's no way.

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Oh poor girl, I know, you know, look, I respect all individuals.

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It's just I don't represent yourself as one thing.

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When that was you, maybe 15 years ago?

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Yes, Were her photos, so were her photos of her when she was more fit, a hundred percent.

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Okay, so the photo's like 20 years old.

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It wasn't just her saying I'm training for this triathlon, I'm meeting with my coach.

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But the pictures that she put out online, oh, they were for running and oh yeah, and you know, like she had one of her just getting yeah, yeah, exactly nice pose.

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Uh, you know of her like uh just getting done with a swim, like everyone was her doing some athletic yeah, I don't get why people do that.

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It's so embarrassing, it's so cringe that you show up, yeah using other pictures that don't reflect who you are.

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I would hate to disappoint someone.

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I'd prefer to look better in person and worse in pictures.

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Yeah, I know I want to make someone happy, not disappoint them like me showing up with like a long mullet, yeah right.

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Well, and that is kind of a red flag too, because it's like it's like it's like those people you know who peaked in high school.

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It's like, okay, we get it.

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The triathlons or the triathlete era of your life maybe was your peak and so you're wanting to hold on to that, but it's like if that was 10 years ago, you've got to let it go, babe.

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You've got to let it go.

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Yeah, you are who you are now.

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Enjoy who you are now Exactly.

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Are you ready for it?

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who you are now.

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Enjoy who you are now Exactly yeah, are you ready for it?

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I'm ready for it.

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Are you ready for it?

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I'm not sure what I'm ready for here.

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All right, let me grab my question here.

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We've got a listener question.

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Sam in Scottsdale says I am married and have a stepdaughter.

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I have to co-parent with my husband's ex and she is constantly letting her daughter down, canceling plans, canceling pickups, and she just doesn't prioritize her daughter at all.

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She puts everything else before her own daughter.

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My husband doesn't want to rock the boat, but I feel this needs to be brought to her attention.

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I feel I can't hold my tongue much longer.

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What do I do?

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That's a tough one.

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Yeah, you know, I think my advice would be be there for the daughter, focus on your relationship with your daughter.

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I don't think it ever puts you in a good place to talk especially to the kids poorly about their mother or father.

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Um, so I think I would just focus in, in, in, when the mother can't, can't pick up the uh, the daughter.

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Be there for the daughter and enjoy the time that you just got a bonus time right you weren't supposed to have that time and and time and just really focus on the daughter.

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I wouldn't put pressure on the husband to confront and I wouldn't put.

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I certainly wouldn't talk to mother.

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That would be.

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I don't think that ends well.

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And it doesn't change the behavior.

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I agree, and I feel like you don't want to create havoc in your own family.

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That should be number one.

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And if her husband is telling her don't say anything, I don't want to rock the boat.

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You shouldn't go behind his back, right, Because then it'll cause a rift in your own family.

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Totally agree, you kind of have to respect him.

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And I mean, is there a nice way to maybe talk to the mother and say, hey, we just hate to see her disappointed?

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We hate the mother and say, hey, we just hate to see her disappointed, we hate to see her continuously let down or no, I don't know.

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Is there a nice?

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I mean as the person coming?

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So the last, my ex, my last like significant relationship he had two kids, and that was my thing from the beginning was like I'm not trying to be another mother to your kids because I'm not their mother and I'm never going to be their mother.

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And even if I disagree with something that you know the other parent is doing, I don't feel like it's your place as the person who's dating you know, because, let's see, was this a?

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Oh, she's married, it's her stepdaughter.

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I think she just cares about the stepdaughter.

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She doesn't want to see her being continuously let down.

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Yeah.

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But still it's like it, like those aren't your children and you have to remember that, at the end of the day, you know you marry someone and you marry their family, sure, and if they have kids, you accept their kids, yeah, but you also have to remember that you're the bonus parent, you're not the parent.

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You know, I don't know, that's how I always felt about it.

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Anyways, dating someone with kids, like, at the end of the day, they're your kids and it's your decisions to make you know.

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Although, you're not their mother.

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You're still a role model.

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Yes, exactly.

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And, over the course of time, if that continues, when that child is older and can make their own decisions, they're going to choose to spend more time with yes and and so long run.

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Just be there for the kid and that too, I think is is more of the stance that I took, like which I really never had this situation where I was worried about the other parent being negligent or anything like that, but but it's like, that's what I would do, like if, if the other parent were to do that, like hey, here I will be present so you can see the actions of someone who is present and who is there for you.

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You know what I mean.

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More so, like leading by leading by example and being a role model, versus trying to insert yourself, because if you insert yourself, even if you have good intentions and you mean well, you're likely going to create drama that's right like it's going to start a fight it just is and at some point it'll affect the kid.

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Exactly last thing you want, exactly and that should be the number one priority in the whole situation is the kid.

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Yeah, that's for the kid.

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Yeah, I agree, I agree.

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So now we're going to discuss two articles.

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So the articles?

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I was researching ways to spice up your marriage.

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You know, after you told me your story about how there was no intimacy and no kissing, I found two articles, one that was for a female audience and one that was geared towards a male audience.

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Which one are we going with here?

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Both we're going to go with both of them because I'd like to compare.

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So the first one is the one that has a high male audience.

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So they say and I'll just go through this we can discuss each one Ways to spice up your marriage.

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Relax together, you know, do a staycation, spa day where you can just spend one-on-one time together, free from distraction.

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I like that Right it distraction.

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I like that right.

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It's a good one.

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Embrace the romance.

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This is imperative.

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We've talked about this before you got to keep the romance alive.

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It's really easy when you're married with kids especially, to fall into that roommate category.

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You've got to keep that spark alive.

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They say candlelight dinners, write love letters, engage in slow dances in your living room or while you're cooking.

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What if you're not like a cheesy person?

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like that gives.

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That gives me like the ick a little bit.

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Have you ever slow danced in your living room?

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No, I have never.

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I have never, and.

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I don't like, have a strong desire to do so no, it's not on my bucket list, no same.

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It's like not something I find myself like longing to do.

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I feel like if I was to initiate that with my husband, he would start laughing at me.

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He'd be like what the fuck are you doing?

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You know so maybe not that one.

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Is this the women one?

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No, this is the male one.

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This is the male one.

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Okay, this is what's a male one Okay.

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So I'm surprised a male would say that he wants to lay around all day and like Well, or is this written by a woman?

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For males Is this something.

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That's what it seems like.

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The audience is males.

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The audience is supposed to be males.

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Okay, supposed to be males.

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Okay, recreate your first date.

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I love this one that actually is cute.

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That is really cool, right, I want to do that with my husband, especially if you've moved and you have to travel back to the place where you had your first date.

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That would be cool.

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That's pretty cool.

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I like that.

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And then we were bowling, didn't you?

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I kicked my husband's butt and he blamed it on a pinched nerve.

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No, he did?

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he sticks to that story to this day?

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Yeah, and he showed me the x-rays.

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He was like, see, I?

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haven't.

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He did not his receipt so then the next one is from each other.

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With words, express your love, gratitude.

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I think that's important to constantly you know, know, I love you.

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Yeah, that has to just be incorporated throughout.

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I think when that starts to stop, there's a conversation that needs to be had.

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Agreed Increased physical touch Holding hands.

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I love that, me and my husband still hold hands all the time.

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We walk our kids into school holding hands and we get so many people, so many other parents that are shocked.

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Oh my God, you guys look like you've just you've only been together a year, like you're still in the honeymoon phase.

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I'm like because we're holding hands Do not a lot of people do that when they're married.

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No, I think they do.

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My parents still hold hands with each other.

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But I think it depends on if that's like your't like.

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If I'm comfortable with someone, I'm okay with them touching me.

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But like I'm not a big hugger, I'm not a big like I don't like people touching me that much so like that.

00:25:59.911 --> 00:26:03.960
Yeah, so like you're not a cuddler in bed no, are you a?

00:26:03.960 --> 00:26:04.621
Cuddler in bed, pete.

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Oh, I love it absolutely.

00:26:06.691 --> 00:26:20.051
Yeah, I'm trying to get my dog to to like lay in bed with me, but he will not come up the stairs oh, I know, that's sad I just started bringing my old dog, my 17 year old dog, in bed with me to cuddle again, because I'm like you're calling with her.

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She's a grumpy little lady not anymore, now that she's got dementia.

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She forgot how much she's sweet again now, like when she was a puppy.

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Oh how cute.

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No, I think that's awesome, like when you're walking or driving down the street and you see like a older couple holding hands walking down the street.

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I think that's.

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I love that.

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I do too.

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I think it's cute.

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Absolutely Plan quality time.

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This is huge.

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You have to plan regular date nights or engage in shared hobbies.

00:26:48.320 --> 00:26:50.574
Again when you're married, you have to do date night For sure.

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I agree, I totally agree with that.

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Explore new interests together Cooking classes, dance classes.

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I think it's great.

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I love that stuff.

00:26:56.673 --> 00:26:58.057
I would do a cooking class.

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I think a cooking class would be fun.

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I just can't dance.

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Well, and that's the thing, I like cooking.

00:27:02.878 --> 00:27:08.874
I don't like dancing, so it's like I think anything, whatever the interests are Like, if there's a shared interest.

00:27:08.894 --> 00:27:09.457
That's true.

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You know, Commun, communicate openly and honestly.

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Obviously, stay active together.

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Not only does it benefit your health, it also benefits your relationship.

00:27:20.465 --> 00:27:23.105
Me and my husband go to the gym all the time together, and I love it yep um reinvent date nights.

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I think this is a good idea.

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Stop doing the typical boring date night and do something different, like board game nights or theme-based dinners or stargazing.

00:27:31.269 --> 00:27:33.913
Something different out of the box, don't you think?

00:27:34.134 --> 00:27:39.523
yeah, I agree with that, yep cook or bake together um plan surprises.

00:27:39.523 --> 00:27:43.230
Hide things in their wallets or in their lunchbox.

00:27:43.230 --> 00:27:45.434
Your little love notes I I write my husband.

00:27:45.434 --> 00:27:51.201
He travels for work and I I'll like print out a picture of my face like a selfie and an ugly picture of my face.

00:27:51.201 --> 00:27:54.433
I'm like stick it in his, in his suitcase and surprise him that's awesome.

00:27:54.493 --> 00:27:57.863
Yeah, that'd be great um support each other's dreams.

00:27:57.863 --> 00:28:01.471
So those are the ones of foster a spirit of forgiveness.

00:28:01.471 --> 00:28:03.337
There's always going to be conflicts in a relationship.

00:28:03.337 --> 00:28:06.334
You can't harp on about it and then celebrate each other.

00:28:06.334 --> 00:28:09.942
Celebrate your partner's successes, which obviously so the women's.

00:28:09.942 --> 00:28:11.212
You want to hear the women's one.

00:28:11.212 --> 00:28:12.454
Yes, geared towards the women.

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How to, ladies?

00:28:13.959 --> 00:28:16.450
Now, is this written by a guy for the women, or I?

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don't know, but I think it's written by a woman for women.

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Waste the spice of your marriage.

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Give a light spanking.

00:28:22.049 --> 00:28:23.434
Give light spanking a shot.

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Book a hotel stay.

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That's going to be all sexual it is.

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Book a hotel clean switch up your positions.

00:28:39.294 --> 00:28:41.380
Well, that bringing all the sex toys ladies, oh my god this is so funny.

00:28:41.401 --> 00:28:42.103
It's so different.

00:28:42.143 --> 00:28:43.467
It's so different it's play a sex related game.

00:28:43.467 --> 00:28:43.909
This is crazy.

00:28:43.929 --> 00:28:49.121
This is like because the men think oh, if I, if I if I'm more romantic sexual.

00:28:49.121 --> 00:28:51.573
They're gonna judge me and they're gonna think that's all I want is sex.

00:28:51.573 --> 00:28:55.902
So I need to go the romance route Start sexting when you're away.

00:28:55.902 --> 00:28:56.763
I do think that's important.

00:28:56.763 --> 00:29:00.496
My husband travels for work all the time, so you have to get a little naughty when they're away.

00:29:01.057 --> 00:29:03.857
Role play hey, not when they're away.

00:29:03.857 --> 00:29:08.240
I am a proponent for sexting like every day.

00:29:08.500 --> 00:29:12.651
When they're at work, making it brand new when they're at the office, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:29:12.730 --> 00:29:19.923
Or like have you seen those videos where it's like I send my husband, sending my husband to spicy text when he's having dinner with his parents?

00:29:20.364 --> 00:29:21.345
Oh gosh, that's hilarious.

00:29:21.790 --> 00:29:22.073
Like they're.

00:29:22.073 --> 00:29:32.295
They're at the in-laws for like Sunday dinner or something, and she sends him like a spicy text across the dinner table when he's sitting next to his mom and dad like to see his face Like I think that's cute, that's fun.

00:29:32.335 --> 00:29:34.019
Yeah, definitely gotta spice it up.

00:29:34.019 --> 00:29:37.375
Add food to the mix, whipped cream and feeding each other.

00:29:37.375 --> 00:29:39.682
Didn't you say there's like a feeding fetish out there?

00:29:39.682 --> 00:29:44.080
People love feeding each other people.

00:29:44.080 --> 00:29:45.002
Yeah, it's weird.

00:29:45.002 --> 00:29:52.154
Some lingerie I'm a big advocate of buying sexy lingerie, putting on some heels and doing a little dance, making aed, Making a little love.

00:29:52.275 --> 00:29:53.517
I'm an advocate of that too.

00:29:53.596 --> 00:30:13.163
Actually, I mean not for me, Men's songs, anyone yeah no, I don't think anybody wants to see that, Okay, this one I've never tried this and I don't know if I'd be inclined to, but try temperature play using an ice cube blowing hot air onto each other.

00:30:13.163 --> 00:30:13.884
How do you guys feel about that?

00:30:13.884 --> 00:30:14.807
Ice cubes are good.

00:30:14.807 --> 00:30:16.229
You've never tried an ice cube.

00:30:16.229 --> 00:30:18.413
No, oh, linz, I just don't like to be cold.

00:30:18.432 --> 00:30:25.402
I need a blanket Okay you can do an ice cube now you have to get all prepared for your ice cube Go the other end of the spectrum and do hot wax.

00:30:25.602 --> 00:30:27.785
Hot wax yeah, isn't that a thing.

00:30:28.026 --> 00:30:28.226
Yeah.

00:30:30.472 --> 00:30:30.834
Does that feel?

00:30:30.854 --> 00:30:34.561
good though I don, I've never done it have you done hot wax, does it burn?

00:30:34.561 --> 00:30:36.164
It does.

00:30:36.164 --> 00:30:39.372
At first, you've done it so does it feel good?

00:30:39.392 --> 00:30:41.755
Well, I don't think you could call it feeling good, but I mean it's.

00:30:41.755 --> 00:30:43.678
You know, it's something.

00:30:43.778 --> 00:30:45.400
It's like pain is pleasure.

00:30:45.400 --> 00:30:47.903
Right, they do say pain is pleasure, yeah.

00:30:48.403 --> 00:30:50.306
So you seem like you've experimented a lot.

00:30:50.306 --> 00:31:00.740
What's the craziest thing you've done in the bedroom oh, I don't know.

00:31:00.819 --> 00:31:10.609
I mean, um, you know, I the last many years have been kind of uh, mellow, but uh no, I had, I had some fun in college.

00:31:12.133 --> 00:31:14.156
I'll just leave it now I'm just going well.

00:31:14.156 --> 00:31:19.521
Well, we all had fun in college, crazy college days that's why we're like we're glad there's no photographic evidence of it.

00:31:20.271 --> 00:31:21.354
There was no phones back then.

00:31:21.354 --> 00:31:22.757
It's bad for the kids these days.

00:31:22.757 --> 00:31:23.740
It's real.

00:31:23.740 --> 00:31:24.541
Oh my god, did you?

00:31:24.561 --> 00:31:32.478
see that video of the golf open yesterday, that man that was going on a very, very racist, sexist rant no, and it went viral.

00:31:32.478 --> 00:31:35.467
He was wasted and he had his company shirt and company hat on.

00:31:36.492 --> 00:31:44.656
It's on all the news stations probably doesn't keep his job right luckily no yeah right, he was fired, it was bad, you should look it up.

00:31:44.656 --> 00:31:56.861
But thank god when we were drunk in our day seriously yeah no we wouldn't probably go down that route, but still we wouldn't go down that road absolutely, but there's some things at parties that I've done that I'm really glad are not around to be documented.

00:31:57.080 --> 00:31:58.564
Right, ain't it the truth?

00:31:58.564 --> 00:32:01.917
And then let's see have makeup sex Again.

00:32:01.917 --> 00:32:02.780
It's all sexual.

00:32:02.780 --> 00:32:05.116
Give upside down oral a try.

00:32:05.116 --> 00:32:05.898
Isn't that 69?

00:32:05.898 --> 00:32:07.153
Yeah.

00:32:07.273 --> 00:32:07.836
I assume.

00:32:08.569 --> 00:32:11.480
I'm not sure you could hang from the rafters and do that.

00:32:12.151 --> 00:32:21.625
I think there's other ways swings a swing, yeah, maybe I don't know, or yeah, one of those chair, one of those like oh, you don't see those chairs.

00:32:22.027 --> 00:32:26.807
There's like an apparatus that women can sit on, so that when you're riding the guy it's not so much work for you.

00:32:26.847 --> 00:32:35.922
Your thighs don't start burning like just go to the gym, ladies, like don't skip leg day um, take control.

00:32:36.042 --> 00:32:38.165
Ensure you get the orgasm that you want.

00:32:38.165 --> 00:32:40.215
Incorporate pre-sex yoda.

00:32:40.215 --> 00:32:43.064
Help you get into the right mindset.

00:32:43.064 --> 00:32:49.301
Go public if you can, but be careful of each city's jurisdictions, because you don't want to end up in the back of a cop car, have you?

00:32:49.490 --> 00:32:52.016
ever read a city's jurisdictions before?

00:32:52.096 --> 00:32:53.459
right before engaging in public.

00:32:53.479 --> 00:33:03.785
Sorry, sorry, honey, one moment please the next one, take it to the back seat.

00:33:03.785 --> 00:33:11.027
Yep, car sex which I think we've all done right it's kind of fun, steam up the windows, try different penetration techniques.00:33:11.047 --> 00:33:11.789


They talk about pegging.00:33:11.789 --> 00:33:13.394


How a lot of people are into pegging.00:33:13.394 --> 00:33:17.868


We've known a lot of women that love to peg and that proposition guys about pegging.00:33:17.868 --> 00:33:25.498


I actually went on a first date one time and, like I said before, if I was kind of feeling that conversation was getting stale, I'd be like so what are your fetishes, what are your kinks?00:33:25.498 --> 00:33:35.028


And this one guy said I like to wear women's lingerie while a woman puts on a strap on and pegs me wow yeah, so I guess a lot of guys are into that.00:33:35.248 --> 00:33:38.414


But anyways, they talk about pegging and they talk about anal.00:33:38.414 --> 00:33:39.416


Play is the last one.00:33:39.416 --> 00:33:41.362


You should not get intimidated.00:33:41.362 --> 00:33:51.875


There are small anal beads, small butt plugs, strap-ons, and you can even try oral sex on the anus, aka rimming, which I did not know what rimming was until one of our last episodes.00:33:51.875 --> 00:33:53.419


So so there you have it.00:33:53.419 --> 00:33:55.363


That's advice for the world.00:33:55.809 --> 00:33:57.375


100% of those were sexual.00:33:57.476 --> 00:34:01.624


They were and 0% of the ones to men were sexual.00:34:01.624 --> 00:34:05.400


Isn't that hilarious, like they were all like romance and wine and dine.00:34:05.480 --> 00:34:05.701


Right.00:34:05.789 --> 00:34:07.916


And all the ones geared to the ladies were sexual.00:34:07.916 --> 00:34:09.061


That's so interesting.00:34:10.110 --> 00:34:13.699


So now it's time for the celebrity cut, where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.00:34:13.699 --> 00:34:16.211


So have you heard Owen Wilson?00:34:16.211 --> 00:34:19.081


I was reading an article about him and his children, how he has three children.00:34:19.081 --> 00:34:20.514


Are you familiar with this story?00:34:20.675 --> 00:34:20.795


No.00:34:21.130 --> 00:34:23.697


So he has three children from three different mothers.00:34:23.697 --> 00:34:24.780


The first two are boys.00:34:24.780 --> 00:34:27.500


One is from his personal trainer, one's from an ex-girlfriend.00:34:27.500 --> 00:34:30.418


His youngest is a daughter from an ex-girlfriend.00:34:30.418 --> 00:34:38.179


He's very active and involved in the boys lives, but he refuses to have anything to do with his daughter.00:34:38.179 --> 00:34:38.481


It's terrible.00:34:38.481 --> 00:34:42.775


Yeah, when he filled out the court documents, he checked the box that says seeking no visitation rights, no involvement.00:34:42.775 --> 00:34:55.048


He pays, obviously, but even though the mother has begged and pleaded for him to be involved in the life, because every girl needs it, every kid needs a father, yeah, um, he just refuses to and I don't know what happened.00:34:55.048 --> 00:34:58.135


I don't know the backstory or what goes on behind closed doors.00:34:58.177 --> 00:35:01.672


But what is more important than being in your kids lives?00:35:01.692 --> 00:35:04.056


right, I can't imagine that's shitty.00:35:04.056 --> 00:35:09.777


Yeah, I have two boys and a girl as well, and I cherish my relationship with every one of them right.00:35:09.818 --> 00:35:28.541


So whatever drama happened between him and the mother, like, put that aside, like be there for your kids and someone of his stature, like like it's like, oh, maybe she's not his or something like that, but at that, like you would think that a paternity test would be super easy, like it's been proven that this is in fact his child, right like, and he's his child.00:35:28.621 --> 00:35:30.789


I just feel bad for the girl that's terrible.00:35:31.010 --> 00:35:31.811


I have a lot of that.00:35:31.972 --> 00:35:36.463


I've lost a lot of respect for him, right I I know and he's so private so he will never let us know what happened.00:35:36.463 --> 00:35:39.449


But I do have a funny story about Owen Wilson, a personal story.00:35:39.449 --> 00:35:47.079


So I was in Vancouver with my friend Sabine this blonde bombshell and we were at this club and Owen Wilson happens to be sitting right next to us.00:35:47.079 --> 00:35:50.079


We weren't fraternizing, weren't in the same group, but he was just sitting right next to us.00:35:50.079 --> 00:35:58.581


We go on the dance floor, he goes on the dance floor with his bodyguard and another gentleman and we're kind of dancing again not together.00:35:58.581 --> 00:36:03.637


But I go to take a picture of my friend yes, I was trying to take a picture of Owen Wilson who was in the background.00:36:03.637 --> 00:36:08.663


So I'm sneaking a picture and his body card comes up to me and demands that I give him my phone.00:36:08.663 --> 00:36:11.572


And I was feeling a little feisty because I'd been drinking tequila.00:36:11.572 --> 00:36:14.822


So I'm like no, this is my phone and he keeps insisting I give him my phone.00:36:14.862 --> 00:36:16.907


I'm like no, it's my legal right to take a picture.00:36:16.907 --> 00:36:18.992


This is a public place and this is my phone.00:36:18.992 --> 00:36:21.097


I'm not legally obligated to give you my phone.00:36:21.097 --> 00:36:24.516


Turns out they, when we got kicked out of the club, we got the boot.00:36:24.516 --> 00:36:25.400


You did.00:36:25.400 --> 00:36:27.489


We got the boot because I wouldn't hand over my phone.00:36:27.489 --> 00:36:28.431


What was he going to do with my phone?00:36:28.431 --> 00:36:30.496


Well, just delete the picture probably delete the picture.00:36:30.496 --> 00:36:33.842


I have a picture of Owen Wilson dancing with his male friends at a nightclub.00:36:33.842 --> 00:36:35.063


Like what's he trying to hide?00:36:37.090 --> 00:36:38.510


I thought you were going to say he was coming out looking for kid four.00:36:38.530 --> 00:36:40.353


What's funny is then like fast forward.00:36:40.353 --> 00:36:55.467


Three weeks later I'm getting my hair done in the salon and I'm reading US magazine and I see in the gossip column Owen Wilson, spotted in Vancouver in the same nightclub whatever the name was partying it up with two blonde bombshells.00:36:55.467 --> 00:36:59.141


No so like we were the ones partying it up with Owen Wilson.00:36:59.141 --> 00:37:00.728


That's hilarious, Isn't that?00:37:00.748 --> 00:37:00.929


hilarious.00:37:01.773 --> 00:37:02.461


Did you save that?00:37:02.461 --> 00:37:03.110


I didn't know.00:37:03.110 --> 00:37:04.248


You could attach your picture to that.00:37:04.692 --> 00:37:05.476


We weren't partying.00:37:05.476 --> 00:37:08.260


We were actually in an altercation, getting kicked out of the club.00:37:08.530 --> 00:37:11.777


That was him partying you guys were probably his.00:37:11.876 --> 00:37:12.778


What do they call those?00:37:12.778 --> 00:37:13.960


It's the beard.00:37:13.960 --> 00:37:15.204


You were probably his beard.00:37:15.204 --> 00:37:19.916


Like he was probably there with the guys, like if he was dancing with men.00:37:19.916 --> 00:37:22.414


Maybe he was trying to hide, who knows, maybe Owen.00:37:22.434 --> 00:37:23.523


Wilson's on the DL.00:37:23.523 --> 00:37:24.110


Maybe he is.00:37:24.130 --> 00:37:26.849


Maybe he plays for the other team and maybe he wanted everyone to think that he was with women.00:37:26.929 --> 00:37:29.512


That he was partying with two blonde bombshells.00:37:29.512 --> 00:37:30.733


Maybe you guys right onto something.00:37:30.793 --> 00:37:33.655


Isn't that what they call it your beard, like that's your beard.00:37:34.657 --> 00:37:36.739


I haven't heard that, yeah when you're gay.00:37:36.778 --> 00:37:39.260


It's like if you're gay, you have a it's.00:37:39.260 --> 00:37:40.081


Yeah, I don't know.00:37:40.302 --> 00:37:42.664


Interesting, you know that is not a bad angle.00:37:42.764 --> 00:37:48.235


Yeah, yeah, you guys wear his beard, because why was he so insistent on me deleting that picture?00:37:48.235 --> 00:37:49.458


Exactly.00:37:49.478 --> 00:37:53.402


Because he was with other dudes or other I say other dudes as if he had.00:37:53.402 --> 00:37:56.672


Maybe he has a dude on the DL, you never know.00:37:57.092 --> 00:37:57.594


I don't know.00:37:57.594 --> 00:38:01.231


So, Pete, I want to know what is your favorite place to take a girl out on a first date?00:38:01.831 --> 00:38:06.159


So I've kind of been changing my perspective on this.00:38:06.159 --> 00:38:08.123


It used to be well.00:38:08.123 --> 00:38:18.675


I still think that happy hours are the easiest time-wise to arrange to go out and, just you know, have a drink at happy hour and call it that.00:38:18.675 --> 00:38:34.963


What I have found is that that usually then leads to dinner and, honestly, I think there's some professional daters out there that, like they, they go to the happy hour, they order food and they get their their free food and drinks.00:38:35.003 --> 00:38:35.784


We have a friend.00:38:35.784 --> 00:38:41.860


We've talked about this on an episode before, but we had a friend who years ago probably 10 years ago she was doing that.00:38:41.960 --> 00:38:42.161


Yeah.00:38:43.599 --> 00:38:55.242


She was lining up dates every night, and sometimes more than one in the same night, because she'd eat her dinner at happy hour and then she'd go to dinner and take that food home with her, because it would be with someone else, you know.00:38:55.193 --> 00:39:05.420


She'd go to dinner and take that food home with her, because it would be with someone else, you know she'd that's another baby bird it like oh, I'm so, I'm so full I can't eat another bite but, let me box up my steak dinner and then she'd take it home.00:39:05.420 --> 00:39:09.362


Then she'd have lunch for the next day and then she'd have a dinner date lined up the next night.00:39:09.362 --> 00:39:10.585


Yeah, for dinner.00:39:10.585 --> 00:39:14.920


Like we literally have had a friend that did that exact thing yeah, yeah, yeah.00:39:15.121 --> 00:39:18.791


Well, I think I've experienced some of that, although I won't do dinner on a first date For one.00:39:18.791 --> 00:39:23.400


If you don't, if there's no connection, now you're stuck for that amount of time, it's true.00:39:23.501 --> 00:39:25.103


Both people are right and so it's not.00:39:25.103 --> 00:39:27.838


So I'm modifying that.00:39:27.838 --> 00:39:32.581


I really do think like a coffee date is the best first date, just to see.00:39:32.581 --> 00:39:38.947


But the problem with that is you really are, you're limited to saturday or sunday, which you know can get busy for some people on the weekends as well.00:39:38.947 --> 00:39:49.809


So you know, I think it it still probably ends up being, you know, like a happy hour thing, but you know I think it's a great place for a first date is postinos like they have happy hour all day.00:39:49.849 --> 00:39:53.217


It's six dollars for any glass of wine, any mini pitcher of beer.00:39:53.217 --> 00:39:55.081


Their bruschetta boards are very inexpensive.00:39:55.081 --> 00:39:57.766


It's inexpensive, the atmosphere is great.00:39:57.885 --> 00:40:01.393


Yep, I love pastinas, I think I just took my parents there on monday night actually.00:40:01.454 --> 00:40:05.222


Yeah, yeah, I like that place yeah, I like, I like there, I like um.00:40:05.222 --> 00:40:08.139


Oso is another bloody marys.00:40:08.239 --> 00:40:11.570


I used to hate bloody marys until oso oh yeah bloody marys are the best.00:40:11.570 --> 00:40:12.050


Have you tried them?00:40:12.431 --> 00:40:13.172


oh yeah, meat sticks.00:40:13.532 --> 00:40:16.737


Yeah, no, they're great annoying on a meat stick.00:40:16.737 --> 00:40:24.177


Anyhow, now we are down for the juiciest segment of the show I thought we started out with the juiciest segment.00:40:24.177 --> 00:40:29.679


We have to start and end on juicy are you down for the challenge, up for the grab, willing to share?00:40:29.679 --> 00:40:34.454


Pick one, if you dare some questions are innocent, some are not so innocent yeah, I know I've heard.00:40:34.494 --> 00:40:39.219


Did you set me up with the one on the on the top?00:40:39.219 --> 00:40:44.965


Oh, geez, uh, can I make up my own?00:40:44.965 --> 00:40:45.731


What is?00:40:45.731 --> 00:40:51.056


All right, read it first okay if you could have sex with one person from your past again, who would it be?00:40:51.056 --> 00:40:58.786


Oh yeah, gotta be, honest, I really hope this person doesn't watch.00:40:58.786 --> 00:41:01.751


Uh, okay.00:41:01.751 --> 00:41:08.657


So wow, that is uh, that's that's a great question.00:41:08.657 --> 00:41:12.802


So I, uh, I dated this.00:41:12.802 --> 00:41:28.661


So my college years were fun and interesting, I should say, and I met this woman who kind of mentored me, if you will.00:41:29.382 --> 00:41:29.884


Sexually.00:41:30.063 --> 00:41:30.905


Yes, mentored.00:41:30.985 --> 00:41:33.938


Oh, okay, she was a teacher like a professional dominatrix.00:41:34.170 --> 00:41:34.360


Where did you go to college?00:41:34.360 --> 00:41:35.021


By the way, Let me interrupt you for just a second In Fargo, north Dakota State.00:41:34.971 --> 00:41:35.150


Wow okay, mentor.00:41:35.150 --> 00:41:35.590


Oh okay, she was a teacher, like a professional dominator.00:41:35.590 --> 00:41:37.293


Where did you go to college, by the way, let me interrupt you for just a second.00:41:37.293 --> 00:41:38.137


In Fargo, north Dakota State.00:41:38.137 --> 00:41:39.559


Wow okay, all right.00:41:39.800 --> 00:41:45.197


Yep, so great school, by the way, go Bison, but it was freezing.00:41:45.197 --> 00:41:48.559


I love Scottsdale much more.00:41:48.559 --> 00:41:51.918


But anyway, she was an amazing woman.00:41:51.918 --> 00:42:00.706


And you know, of course, back then there's no cell phones or or email or anything.00:42:00.706 --> 00:42:04.804


And so she, uh, she left after my freshman year and went to the university of minnesota, and so I I kind of lost touch with her and I've kind of looked for her, but I couldn't find her.00:42:04.804 --> 00:42:08.387


But, uh, she, um, she's that, that's that's probably who I would.00:42:08.387 --> 00:42:09.027


I would pick.00:42:09.068 --> 00:42:13.496


Her name was cecily, so yeah, oh interesting before we wrap up, I just have to make this comment.00:42:13.496 --> 00:42:24.429


So when we were chatting initially, um, you were describing your perfect girl and you were like you know, someone that flies by the seat of her pants and that she's free and she loves to travel and she's active.00:42:24.429 --> 00:42:26.574


For me, you were describing jess.00:42:26.574 --> 00:42:31.413


I have to say this, like it seems, because she loves to travel and go on these adventures.00:42:31.413 --> 00:42:36.554


Is my matchmaking, are my matchmaking radars correct and that you might be a good match, or am I off?00:42:36.554 --> 00:42:39.139


I thought we had a match for him already, do we?00:42:39.420 --> 00:42:47.389


oh, maybe we have multiple matches that was her way of saying no anyways, I'm not in the business of dating guests.00:42:47.690 --> 00:42:53.472


I would like you to be able to have the full experience of the show, because I bet there's going to be many women.00:42:53.512 --> 00:42:54.414


By the way, he he's tall.00:42:54.414 --> 00:42:55.195


How tall are you?00:42:55.516 --> 00:42:56.820


I'm 6'2" 6'2".00:42:57.000 --> 00:42:58.342


Every woman that we interview.00:42:58.342 --> 00:43:01.097


They want a tall man, and it's very rare that you meet a tall man.00:43:01.097 --> 00:43:02.360


So we have a tall man here for you.00:43:02.360 --> 00:43:03.876


So thank you so much.00:43:03.876 --> 00:43:04.318


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Oh my God, I just totally got catfished.00:43:31.257 --> 00:43:33.297


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:43:33.789 --> 00:43:38.402


So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:43:38.402 --> 00:43:40.556


His wife just reached out to me.