Swipe Right, Regret Later: Tales from the Dating Trenches 😆

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Zoe.

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Welcome, thanks for being here.

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I'm so excited to be here.

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So you have a funny story from when you were an Uber driver and you went on a date with a passenger that turned out a little crazy?

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Tell us.

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Oh gosh, yeah, that one was interesting.

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It was a different time in my life about a year ago.

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A lot's happened over the past year, but yeah, it was just kind of.

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It was a different time in my life about a year ago.

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A lot's happened over the past year, but yeah, it was just kind of.

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It was a fun night.

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I had been driving for a few hours and I picked up this man at a place near, not too far and I knew he was going close to my house.

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So I was like, whatever, we're going to end the night, it's going to be simple.

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So I get to my car and I was like how's your night going?

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And he's like it's gonna be simple.

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So he gets in my car and I was like how's your night going?

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And he's like it's been good.

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And he was.

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I was like so you know what are you up to.

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I knew where he was going, because he's going to a strip club like not not too far, it's right down the street.

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I'm in a safe part of town like that's kind of like a cusp right, like I'm like that part is like you don't go there but whatever.

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Um.

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So uh, I was like I'm like you know, you're going to a strip club, right, and he was like what?

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I was like, yeah, you're going to a strip club.

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And he was like I don't want to go to a strip club.

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He's like I'm just going out with the men, like with the boys.

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And I was like, okay, well, we're driving now.

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Like what do you want?

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What do you want me to do?

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Like he was like, well, let's go to this little bar.

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So we went to one literally across the street from my house.

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I was like, worst case, I'll just walk home, right, like whatever, if I drink too much or it's easy to leave whatever.

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So we get there and we're talking and flirting and whatever.

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And he's getting all like.

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He kept asking.

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He was like is this weird?

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You're making it weird?

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I was going to say he's making it weird.

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It is a little bit weird because you went from an Uber ride to a strip club to a date.

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So yeah, a little weird, but whatever I'm like it's fine, I don't want to make him feel insecure.

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He was older than me, right, like probably in his 40s and I'm like in my early 30s, so it was whatever.

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But like talking about like his friends, and he was like yeah, this is.

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He was like what should I tell them?

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And I was like I don't care.

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He was like should I tell them that I picked up my Uber driver?

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I'm like, if you want to, like I really don't care, like, and he was talking about how he was divorced and I was separated and yada yada.

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And then he was like asking, can talk, maybe we can go out again, but like I'm not doing this.

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And then we're getting close and he was like can I kiss you?

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And I was like, maybe, like I don't know.

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This is all bizarre.

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But we had exchanged numbers and I was getting ready to leave and this beautiful blonde woman walks in and she was like Mike, what the fuck are you doing?

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She was like we have a house together, are you doing?

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she was like we have house together we have a life, we have a child and I was like oh shit.

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So he was married with a kid still married still, oh my god.

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And he was doing this locally.

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Like he's from here, his wife lives here dumbass.

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So I was getting ready to leave, I was like I'm, I'm gonna go ahead and go now and uh, so I walk out, I go home and I'm like what, what just happened?

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Like what just happened.

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Like what just happened, it's fine.

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So then he proceeds to text me because we'd already exchanged contact information, and he was like hey, sorry about my crazy ex.

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And I was like that's not your ex, sir, that is not your ex.

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But I didn't respond and he was like hey, super random but my crazy ex walked me out of the house.

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Can I?

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stay at your place, my crazy ex walked me out of the house.

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The audacity, the audacity.

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I was like I just didn't respond.

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He was like you're really cool, have a good night.

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And I was just like, oh my God.

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So that was the end of that.

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His wife must know.

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Like for her to show up at the bar like this has to have happened before.

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Well apparently he was like he had texted his friends and his friends, I think, told his wife Because she was like your friends don't even know who you are anymore.

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Oh my gosh.

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I bet that was not the first time this happened.

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Probably not.

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And he was on a bachelor party.

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I feel like this happens all the time.

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I met a guy once, remember when we were at that concert and we met those group of guys and they were here on a bachelor party and one of the guys asked me out on a date.

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I literally went on a Monday Monday, a Monday lunch date with this guy the next day and then it was like, granted, they weren't from this country, they were from Canada, right.

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But like great, like great date went super well, but then it was like they left and went home and then nothing ever came from it and I didn't keep in contact with him and he didn't keep in contact with me.

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But part of me was like are all these guys married already?

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Like when?

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they come here on bachelor parties.

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You know it's like you wonder.

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Well, here's the thing women do it as well, even more than men.

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So I produced a reality show, sizzle sizzle for thunder from down under and they do not trust women and they don't respect women because the amount of women in town in vegas for their bachelorette parties, the amount of these engaged women about to get married that have sex with these thunder from down under guys, their view of women is just completely the brides.

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The brides are doing this, the ones that are like actually getting married.

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They say that every weekend they have sex with brides.

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Bride to bees that's insane, yeah, so women do it just as much as men, apparently they do.

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But those thunder down under men, those are I met one.

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Yeah, what was his name?

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I'll call him uh, matt, and but he was actually.

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It was like a traveling show and and it wasn't thunder down under, but it was a similar one and they all had a lot of followers.

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It was so attractive definitely the hottest, for sure.

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What's fun is they're actually good guys, like when you get to know them, like one of them.

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Um, they actually all are from Australia or New Zealand.

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One of them was, like, worked with horses.

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I forget the pharaoh, is that what you call it?

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when you like change the yeah, he was like obsessed with horses.

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And then he this was a long time ago, so now he like owns his own Cornish pasty company where he makes Cornish pasties and delivers them to people.

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And then one of them was an elementary school teacher and he wasn't making any money back in Australia teaching, so he's like F it.

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I'm going to join Thunder from Day and Under the classic dancer story.

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It's so funny.

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Right, the struggling single mother, the school teacher, but I guess they don't get paid much.

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Like back then and this was I don't know 15 years ago they were getting paid like 100 bucks a show.

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Oh my god, like nothing.

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I guess they make money from promos and stuff that they do on the side, but I bet they have a lot of fun doing it, yeah, so did you?

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did you date the guy or did you just no?

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Was it a fling?

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No, it was a fling.

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Yeah, I was like I don't trust you, I don't trust you was he good it was was that thunder down under?

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yeah, yeah, I could tell he was a pro.

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I was like I'm not your first and I'm definitely not your last major range, yeah, but then like what?

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So like I've, he could have came to my place like it would have been way, way better, but he was like here there's this hotel we're staying at, and then it's like i-17 and black.

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It was like black canyon highway and it was like the ghetto, yeah, and I was like I don't want to park my car here like and then his and then his friend came and interrupted and then I was like what, what am I doing?

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should I, should I go, should I stay?

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And he was like probably go.

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I was like oh, okay I was just interrupted in one way because was that like the play for a threesome, do you think?

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Was it like that?

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I don't think so.

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No I don't think so.

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No, it was Interrupted, right so conveniently.

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I'm like okay, it was fine, he was like the last of like, he was kind of like the end of my ho phase.

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Okay, after that I can't.

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I don't have the emotional capacity for this anymore.

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Was this your most recent ho phase?

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Have you had more than one?

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Just one.

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A lot of people have more than one.

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Well, so I've been single for a year and a half now, Okay, so yeah, like right at about a year and a half, so I feel like it was the first like six, seven months, and then since oh yeah, definitely more intentional.

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It's like I definitely I can only like do that with people that I really connect with and that I have like an emotional attachment to and that are worth investing.

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Granted, I've always been picky, Like it's never been just like a free-for-all.

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It's always been like I find you attractive, you don't get access just just for fun.

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So you have some crazy stories about an ex that you dated who was bisexual.

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Oh yeah that one too, tell us about that, oh gosh, yeah, so I'll call that one the geologist, that one's a geologist, right, they all got nicknames.

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Um, he's a nice guy.

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Um, we met on hinge.

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I've learned that men who go really quick like it's usually not, it's not gonna be a fit, and then it's just kind of confusing because then you're like, well, this is going so fast, but it's also so fun, and it's like we're hitting it off on all these these different levels.

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But why right?

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So, um, yeah, we, we met up and slept together quickly, so it is what it is.

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But then he was gone on like an exploration project in Nevada for like three weeks.

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So we were just talking right and I was like, well, maybe this is good.

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So it's a way for us to like get to know each other slowly, like over time, and like make sure we actually like have something real.

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And then we started the relationship open, like we were both fine with that.

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I was like you do your thing, you tell me about it, you, I do my thing.

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But he was like into it like no-transcript, ended up meeting another guy who ended up being like kind of psychotic.

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Like it was fascinating, like we met on Bumble, and this is while I was dating the geologist Right.

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So this man, he was a former football player and basketball player, supposedly a pro at both, and he had a C.

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Yeah, right, right.

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And I was like okay, but at the time I was just like huh.

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But I told it to a friend and she was like who do you play for?

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And I was like the Chargers.

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And she was like I know all the Chargers.

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When was he there?

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And I was like 2010.

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She's like I know all of them, all of them.

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She's like I lived there.

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She was like I, I know.

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She was like he's full of shit and I was like and she was like also, nobody switches major like major leagues ever.

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And I was like unless you're Michael Jordan, I'm exactly like yeah, that's exactly what she said.

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I was like, oh, I'm like I don't know sports, like I don't know these things like, but that makes sense.

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Um, so it turns out he was just a little crazy and so, like we ended up like hanging out and then it was more just like kind of like a massage, which was interesting, but he was just like a little crazy.

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Like he was like telling me about all these grandiose things he was doing and all these people that he knew, and I was like how cool.

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And then I just realized like he was literally insane later because he went home and whatever.

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He mentioned that he lost his meds.

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And I was like I don't know what to tell you.

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They're not in my house.

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Like I've looked, I know where your stuff was, like it's not there.

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And then he texted me the next day and he was like, hey, he's like I can't find my meds.

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And I was like I don't know what to tell you Also, I can't find my meds.

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And I was like I don't know what to tell you.

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Also, I don't want to see you again.

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So like, sorry, figure it out.

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And then he, so I was like this is not going to be a fit, just so you know.

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I was like we're kind of, we're done here.

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And then he was like I was like that's fine, I wish you the best.

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And I was like and called the cops and I told them where I found them last and I really didn't want to have to do this but like just in case, like they might be reaching out to you, and I was like what Are you fucking kidding me?

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Like, but I don't have your meds.

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Like I don't have your meds.

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What a psycho it was weird.

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It Call your doctor and write him a new prescription.

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Like have him write you a refill, Like if they really are meds that you need to function call your doctor.

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I feel like he was just looking for a reason to reach out to you and it sounds like he loves the drama.

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I think so, yeah, yeah, so it was weird.

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So all of that happened while I was still seeing this.

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This geologist, right, yeah, so the geologist.

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Then, after all of that, like it was just a fun little side quest, there was just lots of side quests, my friend calls it.

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I was like I like that, so anyway, yeah, so you know, the geologist and I we were still talking.

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So on our first date let me backtrack a minute Okay, on our first date, he was telling me about how he was doing this exploration project and he had this guy in his company who was trying to take over his company.

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So he's doing some really cool stuff.

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These are super rare minerals that very few people in the world know how to extract.

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He's figured it out and he knows where to go and he's building all these relationships with these landowners who have rights to this land and he's built royalties and contracts and whatever.

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So he's doing cool stuff.

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So I fed into the whatever BS or maybe it's real, I don't know of what he's doing and I fed into the dream and I still think he could do it.

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I have total faith in him.

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But someone was trying to take over his company and he got mad about it, like mad, like a little scary mad.

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So I was kind of a little, a little on edge about that, because I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years.

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I'm like I could tell when people are getting like set off.

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And he was starting to get a little bit set off and I was like I don't want to see, I don't want to see how this turns out.

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But, um, he also had mentioned that he had been called a narcissist in the past and I was like anytime someone says that they are, they are.

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I've learned that I'm like, oh, if someone calls you that you are Well and especially, don't you feel like when it starts off really hot and heavy, like with the love bombing and the super fast, and I want to talk to you all day, every day, and this and this isn't that kind of how it usually ends Usually?

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Yeah, isn't that kind of how it usually ends Usually?

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Yeah, that's usually the red flag, right?

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Yeah?

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exactly, which is hard because it's fun to feed into it, but I've learned better and it's flattering.

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It is, it's exciting.

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Yeah, it's like oh, thanks, yes.

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But I've also worked on my.

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I've always had pretty high self-esteem but I've definitely worked on the whole.

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I don't need this to like feel better about myself anymore, like I'm good.

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Was this the guy that made you wear the chastity belt?

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No, he wore the chastity belt he did?

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He wore the chastity belt.

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No, he did.

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Okay, yeah, so fast forward, let's get to the fun stuff.

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Sorry, I'm just telling you like the whole thing about it.

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Yeah, no, so he man friend that he was trying to like partner us all up with where he was like he was the best lover I ever had and I was like, oh, good for you.

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And he was like we should all like do things together.

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I was like, uh, at that point, like if you're setting me up with someone that feels like sex trafficking and I have zero desire to be part of that.

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So like he sent me pictures of his dick and all these things and then I was just like, no, no, I'm good.

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Like he put us on a group chat and he was like we could all go to this nudist resort and hold hands together.

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I was like oh my god, let's not let's not do that.

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I'm like I don't find him attractive and I don't want to sleep with him, and he was like, oh okay, he was like, what about your friends?

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So I had a couple of like options that were a little bit more open, and I had one man that I had like been kind of talking to, who used to do porn, and I yeah, that was, that was fun.

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Um, I still talked to him, but he was like let's all hang out with him too, and I was like he was down, like they were all down, and I just couldn't do it.

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I just couldn't do it.

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But he was into some stuff and he would send me videos like the geologist.

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He would send me videos of the things that he wanted me to do to him with other men through like extreme porn artists, porn artists, and that shit was weird.

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It was like men with like the zipper masks over their face.

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I mean, to each their own, but at some point I'm like this is overacting and if this is what you want, like I can't do it.

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Like this is not me, Not your cup of tea, no, and he definitely had like a handful of chastity belts.

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He sent me pictures, like just, of him and he's like what do you think?

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And I was like not for me, not for me, like I think, no, I think this is, this is a lot.

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And he's like he was like yeah, like I want to watch you, and blah, blah, blah.

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And I was just I tried to be open about it, but I just I couldn't.

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And then on my birthday, he sent me a video of him sleeping with a man getting his dick sucked.

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What my brain broke, my brain broke.

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I was like what, what did I just see?

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Like I told you like I didn't want to see this, like I didn't want, I didn't want any part of this and like, yeah, it was, it was a lot.

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So, um, fast forward.

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He came to visit.

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I should have just ended it there, but I don't.

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Once again, I wanted to see where it went.

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Like I have this like issue where I, whenever people are doing really cool things, I want to be part of it and I like helping like solve problems and all that, and so I like to see where things go.

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But at a certain point it's just like oh no, this is definitely, this is definitely not for me, so tell us about yourself.

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What are your hobbies?

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What do you like to do?

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I am very active.

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I'm out and about all the time, so I spend a lot of my free time hiking.

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I go to yoga as much as I can like, four or five days a week if I can.

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I teach group fitness for fun.

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I teach a core class that's going to be a Pilates class soon.

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I teach cycle on the side, so I just do stuff.

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I go hiking a lot and camping, so I kind of like to blend those as much as possible.

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Um, lately I've been going to a lot more concerts, so that's been a lot of fun.

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Um, and then I like to uh, just travel, traveling around locally.

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Are you looking to get married?

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Are you looking?

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to have kids question?

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I believe, yes, eventually I do want to get married to the, but it's going to be the right person, right.

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Like I'm not going to settle um, and whenever I do have another kid or two, like it's going to be with the person and like there's no divorce, like that's not an option, because I've been there, I've done that.

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Technically it wasn't actually divorced, but still I you know, I have a four-year-old and I'm not doing that to another kid, like I'm not.

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So the next time it's going to be the right thing do you have any crazy talents or a unique fact about yourself that not many people know?

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I can sing really well, can you really?

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can't but I have a this awful like stage fright about it.

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Like very few people ever have heard me sing like my son and like maybe three or four, I was gonna say get a little closer to that microphone.

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Not today, ma'am.

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Not today.

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Maybe one day.

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What's your go-to karaoke song?

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Are you a karaoke?

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I'm not a karaoke person.

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What, even though you can sing?

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No, and that's why, because I'm like, no, I can sing like really well, and I just don't like it's either like, oh, like.

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It's like kind of like the, the bassline like trying to cheer along like you know, sing along with everybody else.

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The uh, cheryl crow, or like whoever the lady who sings, uh, my heart will go on celine dion.

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Right, adele, like full blown belting, like belting it out.

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It's one of those, and then if I'm doing like the sing-along, it's just like, it's not like full, full capacity.

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So, anyhow, most people that love to sing karaoke are terrible.

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They think they're so good and I'm like no, I I know I'm really good.

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Like I had a voice coach at one point.

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She's like oh, you're really good.

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I was like thank you.

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She was like you just got to work on like a few things and you can be really good.

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I'm like I appreciate that.

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But as I've gotten like older, like when I was younger, I wanted to be a famous singer, constant like limelight on you and having like no real personal life.

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I think would that, would that would suck.

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Like I like being able to just go to target and walk around right like you know, and maybe that's, I don't know is that trade-off worth it for millions of dollars, million people, millions of people to follow you?

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I don't know hell yeah true, but no, I, I have, no, I have very then you would need to go to target, you would have assistants going to Target for you.

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That's very true.

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Yeah, I would not need to go shop ever.

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Speaking of which are you ready?

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So, ladies, we have a listener question today.

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Keep more minute, Dear Meat Market Masters.

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I recently went on a date with a guy who seemed great until he pulled out a coupon for our dinner.

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Now, I'm all for saving money, but it was a buy one, get one free coupon for a meal I didn't even really want to order.

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Get one free coupon for a meal I didn't even really want to order.

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To make matters worse, he then asked if I wanted to split the discounted bill and when I hesitated, he told me it's 2025, equality right, and gave me a high five.

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Should I go on a second date to see if he was just nervous or should I run and never look back?

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Dang, I actually went on a date with a guy that used a coupon and it was a little bit of a turnoff.

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I mean, at least wait till the second day to whip out the coupons.

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My ex used coupons all the time, but he did not do it on the first date or even the second date.

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I don't think he really used a coupon until we had been dating for like every day basically, and he would use.

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Well, and he was in the real estate.

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He was in the commercial real estate industry so he would get gift cards from people.

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He had this giant gallon sized ziploc bag in the center council of his truck full of gift cards from clients, and so it would be like we'd be like going out and he'd like pull out the bag and he'd be like, oh, where do you want to go?

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We've got gift cards.

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We've never ever To.

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Fleming's to Sauce, to Hillstone, Like he had, he got good gift cards and so like I didn't really mind it, to be honest, but for a first date I think it's a no for a first date to use a coupon At that point.

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Point they're telling you with how they feel about your value.

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Yeah, right, like you're not worth investing in, like you're.

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You're half the rate and then you want to split it again.

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Now you're even less than that.

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Yeah, so and no I guess be smart about the coupons that you choose, like the one where you are forcing her to order something because it's buy one, get one free.

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She's not having a choice in what she gets to eat.

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Even worse yeah, right, that's a little well lot of those are like you have to choose off of a select, like they're buy one, get one, but you can only choose from like this section of the menu, and so it's like well, what?

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If you want something from a different part of the menu, maybe.

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I'm just extra, but I'm like I kind of don't want to go anywhere where they're sending coupons anyway, Like period, Like.

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I like, I just like to do.

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I like nicer places.

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Don't take me to a chain restaurant.

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Don't take me to Chipotle.

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It's hard, hard.

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So Golden Corral is out for you, Absolutely yeah, I'm going to say that list that came out of, like don't take women to these places on the first date.

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Are you in agreement with that?

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I don't even know what you're talking about.

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It was like Applebee garden, chilies it was fast food?

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absolutely not.

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Yeah, I, because, like I'm I'm kind of odd in the way that, like I don't like to go to the same place twice, like there's so many restaurants in phoenix, why would I go repeat something and it's like I really really like it?

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Um, so yeah, absolutely not.

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And I'm all about saving money.

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So to the person that wrote in, maybe take her for happy hour, where you can get discounted stuff with.

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Chris has a great happy hour, or postinos is relatively inexpensive six dollars for any glass of wine, any pitcher of beer, or their monday night deal, like the bruschetta board in a bottle for 25 bucks or whatever it is they're like.

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Yeah maybe save the coupons for the what?

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third, fourth day yeah, go somewhere discounted, but no, no coupons yeah so now we're going to discuss this article.

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Basically, it's how to make your online dating profile stand out, because everyone dates online now.

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You know people that work from home.

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That's pretty much the only place you can meet people, unless you want to go to the bars or the clubs, which I know a lot of older people don't want to do that.

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So basically, basically, it says tips for writing an online dating profile.

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Don't write what you think people want to hear.

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Write about what matters to you.

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If you have a quirky hobby or get delighted by something silly, make reference to it, because chances are there's going to be someone out there that enjoys the same passion as you Like.

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Don't be afraid to be yourself.

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Avoid negativity in your profile.

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Focus on what you want in a partner, not what you don't want in a partner.

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That when I was dating online, that would be such a deal breaker for me.

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If people are just being so negative and slamming people.

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If you're a liberal run away, swipe the other way, don't you agree?

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Negativity is a turn off yeah, yeah, yeah then it says create.

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And what do we?

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How do you feel about politics in a profile?

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I mean, for some people, I think that like if that is like a big issue and they want to put it out there, like that's fine, it's kind of better to know early that's true, I think.

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If it's a deal breaker for you put it out there, right?

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don't be mean about it either yeah yeah, yeah.

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So add personality by weaving your interest and sense of humor through your profile.

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I think that's huge.

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If you have a sense of humor, put it in there.

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That's what got me to pick my husband, because his profile is just hilarious and I don't like a man that takes himself too serious.

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So his profile that's what got me.

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Uh, keep it short.

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Ain't nobody got time to read a freaking long essay?

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Isn't that a turn off?

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I don't even read it.

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If there was a profile that just went on and on, I would disregard it's a lot well, and I, men, don't read women's profiles anyways, it's true they just look at the pictures all about your pictures?

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Yes, I feel like, for the most part.

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Anyways, speaking of, photos.

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It says avoid selfies like how cringe when you see the gym selfies or the car selfies, so embarrassing.

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But then this says if you must include a selfie, use a selfie stick for better quality.

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Oh, my God, how do you feel about a?

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man that has a selfie stick.

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I mean, I will say car selfies.

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Although the background isn't great, sometimes they have the best lighting, Usually the lighting is so good.

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The lighting is so good I get some of the best car selfies Absolutely.

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At one point I did have a bunch of car selfies on my profile.

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Girl, get rid of the car selfies.

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I was like what?

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But they're all so good, he was like yeah, but stop like get rid of them.

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You don't need five of them on one dating profile.

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Yeah no, so I started like taking pictures of me hiking and I'm like here and I think it's a bit better you know, I guess I don't mind selfie so much, but what I hate cannot stand pet peeve is when people make posts like it's such a beautiful day in arizona and it's a picture of your face in the car.

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Or had such a great workout at the gym and it's a picture of your face in the car.

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You know the post has nothing to do with your face.

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Or over-filtered selfies.

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Like if you're going to take a selfie and put it on.

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A dating like this is one of the biggest things, too, that the guys that we've had as guests on complain about is, you know, the pictures of the women don't match the actual face of the woman when they show up to the date, and so it's like are we are we that how do I want to say not self-aware enough to realize that we don't look like in real life, like what our faces look like with a filter?

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It's like come on, ladies.

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They say pictures of you being active and pets pictures of you with pets do well, a lot of you know people love dogs, but there was a big thing recently where it was like guys with dogs, or was it guys with fish in their profile pictures.

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There was something, it was a fish, right it was like any guy, who's holding a fish in his dating profile is like a red flag for some reason.

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And I mean I see both sides of it Like on.

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Like a primal level, there's like a hunter-gatherer thing right and they think that's kind of what they're trying to show, like, look at me, I can bring you a fish, right, but at the same time it's like, bro, you are now cliche, like there's something, but that's better than a picture of the gym.

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Right, I'd prefer to see a picture of a man fishing than a picture of a man working out at the gym.

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I kind of want both too, because I need to know that you go to the gym Exactly, I need to know you take care of yourself.

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Speaking of fishing, did you hear about the woman that went fishing with 10 blokes?

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She came home with a red snapper.

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Oh God.

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Anyways.

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So it says put in snippets, like on a Friday night you'll find me doing blank and they say your profile's not a resume, so you don't need to go on and on about your degrees and jobs.

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Instead, include your preferences, like you'd rather walk on the beach than hike in the mountains.

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Studies show that profiles mentioning hobbies like cooking, dancing and gardening get more messages.

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Limit, like we've talked about about, limit selfies and include current images.

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It's important to use photos.

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Who has a profile without photos?

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Does anyone do that nowadays?

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I've seen people that only like a few times where they use landscapes and that's it.

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What yeah?

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I was like how, how are the sites even allowing that though no clue.

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I feel like the only way that that would get women to respond is if you put in their verification that you have a lot of money this guy's a verified multi-millionaire, then without a picture you would have women like, like it's like landscape, landscape, landscape, bank account that is hilarious.

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Who needs a picture when?

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you have millions of dollars, right, that's fine, then it goes on to say that photos are important.

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You don't need professional ones, but images should be attractive and poses should be natural and relaxed.

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If you like to cycle, include a photo of you cycling.

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Avoid old photos that no longer resemble you and images of you wearing.

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Avoid images of you wearing sunglasses or anything that obscure your face.

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Don't use selfies again.

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Include pictures of you with your pets that you love.

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Studies show that including a cat or a dog in a profile picture catches the attention of other members and embrace new dating profile features.

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Like I haven't been on the dating apps for a while now, but I guess can do video messages, you know video intros, videos.

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Oh, I've heard voice.

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I mean definitely voiceovers.

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People really like that.

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I've talked to a few men where they like I'll send a message and they send a voice note back and then I'm like sending a message and then a voice.

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I'm like, bro, I don't have time to listen to your voice message.

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Like I, I can look like I'm busy, like I'm busy, I don't have time, like that just means it's just sometimes stories, though.

00:30:35.516 --> 00:30:46.009
Like I feel that way too, but sometimes things via text message can get misconstrued and I feel like it's easier sometimes to convey things via voice note.

00:30:46.009 --> 00:30:47.534
Yeah, if you're texting back and forth.

00:30:47.534 --> 00:30:48.498
And I think.

00:30:48.498 --> 00:31:02.916
Another thing to add to that list I don't know, I'm not on the dating app, so I I'm not sure, but I'm in the Facebook groups like the dating groups, like the Are we Dating the Same Guy and stuff like that, and so one of the complaints on there is also AI images.

00:31:03.157 --> 00:31:11.700
Oh God, yeah so people who AI themselves at places or on yachts or in front of cars or whatever like.

00:31:11.700 --> 00:31:13.547
Do you see that a lot on the apps?

00:31:13.547 --> 00:31:15.724
Like, are there a lot of profiles that use ai images?

00:31:15.744 --> 00:31:26.705
not a lot, but you could definitely tell which ones are ai and which ones are doing this like, yeah, it's not you, yeah, I feel like in this day and age, people really want authenticity more than ever.

00:31:26.705 --> 00:31:31.143
That's why people are so sick of the celebrities, like sick of megan marco, because they're just not authentic.

00:31:31.143 --> 00:31:36.011
They want real people on like, on TikTok, how people are just themselves and authentic, right, yeah, no for sure.

00:31:36.031 --> 00:31:45.490
I was actually on like Reddit a few weeks ago and there was this woman who was posting about like she has some facial piercings and she was very like liberal and she was like I'm just not getting any matches.

00:31:45.490 --> 00:31:50.079
She's like I ran completely out of matches and like or just all the options in my city and have nothing.

00:31:50.079 --> 00:32:00.830
And everyone was like we'll take the piercing side of your face, maybe change this and that, and I jumped in and I was just like tweak a few things, but no, be yourself, leave your piercings in.

00:32:00.830 --> 00:32:01.752
Who cares?

00:32:01.752 --> 00:32:08.173
Add filters right, but if you're going to attract somebody, you want to bring yourself to the table.

00:32:08.173 --> 00:32:14.151
You don't want to bring somebody who's getting what they think is you and then it turns out you're something different, right.

00:32:14.151 --> 00:32:17.051
So like, be yourself, like fuck them right, Like, just do your thing.

00:32:17.539 --> 00:32:34.948
Yeah, one of our previous guests who showed up to a date and the woman had half of a face full of tattoos, but she didn't show that side of her face on her in her profile pictures and so it's like you're doing even worse by trying to change who you are in your photos and then showing up as somebody completely different.

00:32:34.948 --> 00:32:35.769
Just be yourself, Like.

00:32:35.848 --> 00:32:44.674
I don't use filters, like I don't wear makeup, like I don't wear a face full of foundation anymore Like I do concealer and brows like eyeliner.

00:32:44.755 --> 00:32:45.516
Naturally beautiful.

00:32:45.516 --> 00:32:46.195
Thank you.

00:32:46.455 --> 00:32:48.317
I've started taking care of my skin ever since COVID.

00:32:48.317 --> 00:32:49.681
That's like all I do.

00:32:49.681 --> 00:32:55.353
I'm like lactic acid at night and then from there to sunscreen during the day and I feel like it's just, it makes a difference, right.

00:32:55.353 --> 00:33:10.630
And then I've also like I talk about that with men and they like that, and like they like the fact that I don't wear a ton of makeup, and they're like, huh, I'm like, yeah, I'm like you could take me on a date and I can go swimming and I'm going to look the we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.

00:33:11.009 --> 00:33:13.333
How do you feel about Meghan Markle's new show?

00:33:13.333 --> 00:33:15.694
What is it called With?

00:33:15.755 --> 00:33:17.037
Love With Love, Meghan With.

00:33:17.076 --> 00:33:17.436
Love Meghan.

00:33:17.559 --> 00:33:19.828
I haven't watched it, to be honest.

00:33:19.828 --> 00:33:24.670
I've heard the chitter-chatter a little bit about it and how she's.

00:33:24.670 --> 00:33:25.291
It's terrible.

00:33:25.451 --> 00:33:25.992
I didn't watch it.

00:33:25.992 --> 00:33:35.584
I just watch all the snippets that other people are posting and making fun of and it's so cringe it thing and making fun of and it's so cringe, it's so bad, like she's just.

00:33:35.584 --> 00:33:36.326
She is not authentic at all, I feel.

00:33:36.326 --> 00:33:41.885
I feel she's trying so hard to present herself as this perfect, you know, and it just she just annoys me so much.

00:33:41.885 --> 00:33:46.326
But I loved her at first and I thought she was so good for the royal family and I had such high hopes.

00:33:46.326 --> 00:33:50.161
I was so excited that Harry finally fell in love with this wonderful girl.

00:33:50.662 --> 00:33:54.903
But then, like how she and I can understand she would want to leave the royal family.

00:33:54.903 --> 00:33:58.059
It's not for everyone, right, there are so many rules and regulations.

00:33:58.059 --> 00:34:02.853
But then to leave, choose to leave, fine, I was all for that.

00:34:02.853 --> 00:34:08.606
But then to continue to bitch and complain and trash them, not once, not twice, but continuously.

00:34:08.606 --> 00:34:10.650
How many interviews did she do?

00:34:10.650 --> 00:34:11.652
Oprah Winfrey?

00:34:11.652 --> 00:34:16.393
And then they did that reality show where they were bitching like leave the royal family and live your life.

00:34:16.393 --> 00:34:24.021
You married a prince, you're millionaires, enjoy your life, spend time with your family, be positive but then on the show doesn't she correct someone?

00:34:24.163 --> 00:34:30.322
and she's like because someone says something, something megan markle and she's like well, you know, it's sussex now that's another thing.

00:34:30.342 --> 00:34:42.766
So it's like she to claim the name, but she doesn't want to be a part of the family she hates the royal family, she bitches about them, she leaves them, but then she still wants everyone to know that she's a Sussex, she's got the royal title.

00:34:42.766 --> 00:34:49.130
And then another thing that bugs me is she complains about how, when she was in the royal family, she didn't have privacy.

00:34:58.920 --> 00:35:00.967
She wants her privacy, but now she's on tv all the time she's doing, how many reality shows she's?

00:35:00.987 --> 00:35:02.210
in how many of the tabloids like she does not want privacy.

00:35:02.210 --> 00:35:02.833
I did like her on suits though.

00:35:02.833 --> 00:35:03.735
Yeah, I never watched that, oh, back in the day.

00:35:03.735 --> 00:35:11.525
Yeah, everybody slams her for being a terrible actress, but like I think she was kind of good in that show, yeah, well, and she's just such a hypocrite.

00:35:11.565 --> 00:35:15.643
Like when she was on Oprahrah she was like oh they, you know, the royal family took away my identity.

00:35:15.643 --> 00:35:16.847
I mean, they took away my name.

00:35:16.847 --> 00:35:22.373
But now she doesn't want to be margaret marco, she wants to be, have the name of the royal families.

00:35:22.373 --> 00:35:26.826
Yeah, and she just I feel like she's very out of touch and she wants to be relatable.

00:35:26.826 --> 00:35:33.048
But then she's doing this show where she's meeting with her beekeeper to like, get honey.

00:35:33.048 --> 00:35:38.489
She's making ice in an ice train, she's like but make no mistake, you cannot use tap water.

00:35:38.489 --> 00:35:40.447
Don't use tap water for your ice.

00:35:40.447 --> 00:35:44.210
But a lot of people don't have anything but tap water, right?

00:35:45.221 --> 00:35:46.728
So is it like a lifestyle show?

00:35:46.728 --> 00:35:49.199
I think it's supposed to be like a cooking show, right?

00:35:49.601 --> 00:35:50.525
I have no clue.

00:35:50.565 --> 00:36:08.409
She makes this, she's so proud of making this rainbow fruit for her kids in the morning by putting like strawberries and blueberries and pineapple and everyone's like I did that on Pinterest 20 years ago and then like she's taking pretzels out of a pretzel bag and like just putting them in another little bag and tying them up and making it look special.

00:36:08.409 --> 00:36:12.603
One last thing I have to vent about Meghan Markle.

00:36:12.603 --> 00:36:24.586
So one thing I hate is that, okay, it's okay for me to hate Blake Lively, right, like for me, blake Lively and Meghan Markle are kind of similar that they're narcissistic, they're inauthentic.

00:36:24.586 --> 00:36:27.273
They just have this attitude about them and it's fine.

00:36:27.273 --> 00:36:29.567
It's acceptable for me not to like Blake Lively.

00:36:29.987 --> 00:36:35.159
But when I don't like Meghan Markle for the same reasons I don't like Blake Lively all of a sudden, don't like Meghan Markle for the same reasons I don't like Blake Lively all of a sudden, I'm racist, right?

00:36:35.159 --> 00:36:38.710
They claim that the people that don't like Meghan Markle it's because you're racist.

00:36:38.710 --> 00:36:40.907
But no, it's just because I don't like her personality.

00:36:40.907 --> 00:36:45.047
She's just not very likable to me, not very authentic, not very genuine, right?

00:36:45.047 --> 00:36:45.688
Just as a person.

00:36:45.688 --> 00:36:46.530
So why is that?

00:36:46.530 --> 00:36:47.231
Why do people?

00:36:47.231 --> 00:36:49.711
We want racists that don't like her?00:36:49.711 --> 00:36:49.751


I?00:36:50.152 --> 00:37:00.197


don't know, being mixed I guess, I don't know, they just it's kind of like it's it's a hot button topic right, and so, all of a sudden people are just like oh yeah, sure, like.00:37:00.197 --> 00:37:02.157


That's just what we'll just call it racism.00:37:02.157 --> 00:37:03.597


It's like, but it's not.00:37:04.059 --> 00:37:09.581


You can just not like people, because they suck right fine yeah, so what is your favorite place to go on the first date?00:37:10.282 --> 00:37:10.965


you know what I really like?00:37:10.965 --> 00:37:31.795


The, uh, scottsdale quarter like really just there are a bunch of different restaurants there and I already kind of said like I don't really like to go to the same place twice, but they've like there are a few different spots around there that like I still haven't been to, but I've been to a couple as well and they're like it's always a different experience, but I like to be able to do like a few different things, or at least like walk around and talk, so that whole little area is just is really nice.00:37:31.815 --> 00:37:35.864


In my opinion, and what exactly are you looking for in a man like what is your type?00:37:35.864 --> 00:37:37.710


Yes, oh, good question.00:37:37.710 --> 00:37:38.891


I guess both it's.00:37:38.891 --> 00:37:42.208


So it's like a double-ended question, like, because they're there, it's sort of different.00:37:42.208 --> 00:37:44.302


So your physical type like, what is your type type?00:37:44.302 --> 00:37:45.786


And then, how right, what?00:37:45.786 --> 00:37:46.869


What are you looking for?00:37:46.909 --> 00:37:48.601


ideally taller than me, right?00:37:48.601 --> 00:37:49.742


Um, because I'm really tall.00:37:49.742 --> 00:37:50.403


I'm 5'11.00:37:50.403 --> 00:37:56.012


If I wear heels, I'm I'm easily 6'2", so around 6'3 and up would be great.00:37:56.012 --> 00:37:58.996


6'2 is fine, as long as they're taller than me without heels.00:37:58.996 --> 00:38:04.992


Athletically built, it turns out I do prefer buff dudes.00:38:04.992 --> 00:38:11.704


I can't do scrawny or overweight, not because there's anything against it, but it's just like I don't know.00:38:11.704 --> 00:38:13.751


It tells me kind of how they take care of themselves Right?00:38:13.880 --> 00:38:15.485


Are you okay with a little bit of a dad bod?00:38:15.485 --> 00:38:17.610


Yeah, okay, oh, yeah, okay yeah.00:38:17.719 --> 00:38:24.449


But as long as we're like strong, right, as long as you're strong, that's what I'm asking, and if you're big and strong, it's great, and if they're like a former baseball player I've learned that's fun.00:38:24.449 --> 00:38:31.994


I know the builds right, but yeah, just taller than me.00:38:31.994 --> 00:38:44.947


But they have to be like entrepreneurial in some aspects, because I'm very entrepreneurial, Like I do lots of different things, Like I love just business in general and strategy and like high-level conversations.00:38:44.947 --> 00:38:49.146


So if someone is very like content with where they are they don't really know where they're going.00:38:49.146 --> 00:39:03.195


I have nothing in common with them, right, they have to that vision and planning and like that kind of like that ability to show that they can lead, right, um, and you know, take me with them.00:39:03.195 --> 00:39:06.103


But also like I'm a strong personality and so I'm gonna, I'm gonna have my opinions along the way too.00:39:06.264 --> 00:39:08.210


So now it's time for the meat grab.00:39:08.210 --> 00:39:11.166


Are you down for the challenge, up for the grab, willing to share?00:39:11.166 --> 00:39:12.690


Pick one if you dare.00:39:12.690 --> 00:39:19.815


Some of them are innocent, some not so innocent we're gonna go right, you get a good one yeah, oh yeah.00:39:19.835 --> 00:39:20.257


This is great.00:39:20.257 --> 00:39:23.914


What's your perfect weekend?00:39:23.914 --> 00:39:27.585


So you're like oh vanilla.00:39:27.606 --> 00:39:36.065


She wasn't something much more juicy, perfect no, it's funny, I love my perfect weekend, like every weekend, that well kind of all the weekends I I love my life.00:39:36.065 --> 00:39:48.809


I have a very fun life, but really like anytime that I can go to yoga and then go hiking, um, ideally go to like a concert or something, um, whenever it's hot, I like to go up north and I like to camp, um, and just go find a spot where there's no one around.00:39:48.809 --> 00:40:02.007


I'll take my dog, we'll go camp under the stars and just hang out and maybe explore a little bit, eat some really good food, um, and then just come on back and then eat some really good food when you're out camping in the middle of nowhere.00:40:02.086 --> 00:40:03.452


Are you like eating MREs?00:40:03.452 --> 00:40:04.175


Like what are you?00:40:04.195 --> 00:40:12.467


because I need some recommendations, yeah, no, so I usually I bring my like, I bring like food with me, like for the actual camping session but then I go explore like a town nearby.00:40:12.568 --> 00:40:25.780


Okay, right, so then I go to like a local restaurant or like, if I go to Sedona right, there's always something over there and, yeah, I love how you're very versatile, like you're very glamorous, obviously, and you you sound like a foodie, you like nice restaurants, but you can also camp.00:40:25.780 --> 00:40:29.025


Oh yeah, you can also put on a you know cap and rough it.00:40:29.106 --> 00:40:34.934


I love that when people can do both you know I yeah, I've thought about doing like I can, so I'm also really good with cars.00:40:34.934 --> 00:40:44.418


I used to own a car dealership and I come from a car family, so I can diagnose more things in a car than an average man nowadays, and that's a problem it is a problem.00:40:44.518 --> 00:40:46.804


It is a problem as a girl who grew up on a farm.00:40:46.804 --> 00:40:50.273


I totally, totally feel you on that.00:40:54.019 --> 00:40:54.322


It is a problem.00:40:54.322 --> 00:40:54.643


It is I'm like.00:40:54.643 --> 00:40:55.146


I don't like.00:40:55.146 --> 00:40:57.717


If I'm in your car and I'm like, you should probably go get your brakes checked right, like you should probably.00:40:57.737 --> 00:41:04.766


Like I hear something in your wheel, you should probably go get that checked out like I don't want to have to tell you these things, like you should know it's off, get it fixed right.00:41:04.766 --> 00:41:06.289


That's just me.00:41:06.289 --> 00:41:09.842


But, yes, I, I am definitely a jack of all trades, which is fun.00:41:09.842 --> 00:41:10.364


It's just fun.00:41:10.364 --> 00:41:13.748


So I need someone also who is complimentary to that as well.00:41:13.748 --> 00:41:16.813


Right, like know, know a lot about different things.00:41:16.813 --> 00:41:23.222


Right, and like how to fix things but how to have fun and how to dress up, and you know how to go strategist, how to go talk to the mayor right, like I've talked to the mayor.00:41:23.222 --> 00:41:25.706


Like you need to be able to like keep up.00:41:25.706 --> 00:41:35.804


Right, and I mean it sounds like picky and stuck up, but like I've curated a very fun life and I only want someone that can like elevate and make it better.00:41:35.804 --> 00:41:44.222


Um, and that you know, looks good by my side or I look good by their side, or whatever, but like we still have like our strengths and it just it works together.00:41:44.222 --> 00:41:46.150


But I don't, I'm not settling my period.00:41:46.170 --> 00:41:47.195


I'm not settling like.00:41:47.195 --> 00:41:53.851


You are the full package and you should expect the full package with a big package, ideally.00:41:53.851 --> 00:41:54.672


Well, that's a wrap.00:41:54.672 --> 00:41:58.668


Thank you so much for joining us here at the meat market and thank you so much, zoe, for being here.00:41:58.668 --> 00:42:05.139


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Oh my God, I just totally got catfished.00:42:22.748 --> 00:42:24.773


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:42:25.260 --> 00:42:29.889


So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:42:29.889 --> 00:42:32.032


His wife just reached out to me.