Van Life Adventures: Heartbreak, Hitchhikers, and Love on the Go 🌟

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Jared.

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It's Jared, welcome, thank you for having me.

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So you live in a van.

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I do what happens when you go on a date and you want to bring the girl home.

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Has that happened?

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It's best we go to her place, yeah.

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Let's be real.

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So how many women have had the luxury of being invited back to your van?

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Have you brought women home?

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Only three.

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Only three.

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Yeah, typically it's like I said a better option to find somewhere different than my place.

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Yeah, I know right.

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Even today, when you walked into the studio, you were like, oh my God, running water.

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So it's like I can only imagine, as a woman like you walk into a place and it's like, okay, so can we go to the bathroom, what's?

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going on here Outside.

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So I read that a lot of the younger generation are choosing a minimalistic lifestyle.

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So tell us, how did you choose to live in?

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the van life.

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Well, I was about 25 years old when I had already lived the life that I wanted to live.

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I had all the toys and all the things.

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I was a heavy equipment mechanic for almost 10 years and I acquired a beautiful three-bedroom, two-bath house, farm fields all the way to the Mountain View.

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I had all the toys, motorcycles, side-by-sides, boats, trucks, camp trailers, all the things.

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And I was just extremely unhappy with where I was.

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I knew that I had an entrepreneurial journey inside of me and I wanted to live that out.

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And I went ahead and made the decision that I was going to leave my job about the time that COVID happened and the girl I was with at the time was not comfortable with me exploring that venture and she said basically it's either you can do this without me or you cannot do it and stay with me.

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And I was like later.

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So from that point I realized I didn't want to be stuck in my zip code.

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I started bettering my life.

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I started, I learned how to meditate and journal and play my guitar and sing at the same time and I just really got into focusing on myself and bettering myself and in that space I gathered the fact that I needed to leave my zip code.

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And in that space I gathered the fact that I needed to leave my zip code.

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So I sold off my business, my house, all of my belongings, essentially just in the quest of self-discovery.

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So from there I traveled for a long time and, long story short, ended up in California where I was living in an apartment and they wanted to increase the rent rate and I did not want to pay $3,000 a month for a two bedroom, one bath.

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Um.

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So from there I I had the van for like probably a year prior and at that point I was like here's what I'm going to do with the van, Cause I had no idea before.

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Um, I just I got the van for free, essentially, so I didn't have any plans for it until it was necessity, and then I just built it because it's my aptitude.

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So I put it together and then from there I just kind of lived the SoCal van life, which was beautiful and easy because the weather's perfect.

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Here it's a little bit different because our seasons are kind of intense.

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How does that work in the summertime?

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It's not going to.

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I don't, I don't intend to have you spent a summer here already Only the tail end.

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Okay, and it was hot.

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Yeah, I mostly feel bad for my guitars cause they're not built for the yeah, and that's, it's coming.

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It's coming fast.

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Where will you go this summer?

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Um, so actually my real estate partners are.

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They own a boatload of triplexes, four plexes and then single family rental homes, so ultimately I'm just going to become a tenant in one of their properties here.

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What about the winters?

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Cause it can get cold here too.

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Do you sleep with the heating on or just a bunch of blankets?

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I usually start the engine, turn the heater on, let it warm up, and from there I turn it off and I go to bed and I cross my fingers that it won't freeze to death.

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But, luckily, you know, it gets like 50, 60 degrees.

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I keep a down comforter that's folded in half, so I'm like double down comforter that's folded in half, so I'm like double down comforter.

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It's actually pretty warm, but it's all reliant on my own body heat.

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I just realized did you, did you drive the van to the studio today?

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I?

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didn't even look, oh, you did it.

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Oh, I want to see it yeah, well, I can show you some photos later um, it's.

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It's not something that I use to commute, I I keep it stationary at a friend's house.

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He's got 10 acres, so plenty of room, and then I have actually a nice little Lexus that I drive as my daily commuter vehicle, so it's almost like a stationary home at this point.

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Okay nice, so do you enjoy it?

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Do you plan to do this for many years to come?

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Do you have a goal?

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I plan to enjoy it more as a toy um in the future, because it is really fun to be able to just say I want to go to sedona tonight you know, and I don't need to book a hotel, I don't need any reservations, I just mob it up and sleep in it and um.

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So the plan is to use it more so as that.

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I was reading that the younger generation are very much into this type of lifestyle because it does offer flexibility, mobility, financial freedom, less stress, less clutter.

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I know I was going to say did you really sell everything except what would fit in the van?

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Or do you have like a storage unit somewhere where you have some things left?

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I have?

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a storage unit with some things Okay, mostly just valuables that I'm not willing to part with.

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Yes, yes, and to touch on your point, lindsay, you know the main intention with it is not because I can't have, because I don't have another option.

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It's really to mitigate my expenses and maximize my income, all done with the intention of being able to roll it into the next phase of my life smart.

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You're being smart about it because rent nowadays is absolutely out of control but do you, do you tell women right, like when you did?

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has it made dating difficult?

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you know, having that conversation if you find out me prior to, I feel like it's not really much of a stigma, and I'm not.

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I don't wear it on my sleeve, I don't go around telling everybody hey, I live in a van.

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Yeah, so are you on the?

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apps.

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I'm no longer on the apps I've.

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I've been intertwining myself with a community.

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That's been so incredible.

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I haven't needed to.

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I deleted them in my most recent relationship and it's been wonderful so do you find, when you do meet a girl and you finally tell her about your living situation, do you find that you get judged a lot, or do a lot of women accepting and think it's cool?

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sometimes there are other van life chicks.

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Yeah, that's easy it's like a whole community yeah, that's cool other times.

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Other times I don't think so.

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No, you know, because you realize in meeting me that I have an aptitude that's not like somebody who's just doing this thing because I don't know any better, or I'm trying to take an easy route out.

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It's not easy.

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It's not an easy life.

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Well, you can tell that you're very ambitious, you're very intelligent, you have a long-term plan.

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You can tell that you're not just one of these people, that just so.

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do you have a gym membership?

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Do you shower?

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at the gym Okay.

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I was going to ask is that where you shower the gym?

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I go to the gym twice a day Once in the morning to work out and then once at night to shower.

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Okay, you said that you live on your friend's property.

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Do you not go into his house to shower or to use the kitchen?

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It's totally there and I totally have an option.

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He literally has like a studio built into his house that I could live in, but I, like I'm on a mission to not be reliant on someone.

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Wow, good for you.

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How long do you plan to do this?

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Is it dependent on the career sort of milestones, or is it?

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Do you have a timeline?

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Well, the weather's going to be the main determining factor here.

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Yeah, Makes sense.

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The weather's going to be the main determining factor here.

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Yeah, makes sense While at the same time, there are financial milestones that I plan to achieve to be able to really not be in this space anymore.

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So you do real estate right, I do.

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Okay, I'm an investor and an agent.

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Nice.

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So I've got a fix and flip happening right now and that's been taking like all of my time.

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I don't spend a lot of time in the van because I am I'm a very diligent worker.

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I work from the time I get up to the time I go to bed, so it's like really I only utilize it for sleep so tell us about your last relationship.

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You touched on it a little bit.

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How long ago was that?

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That was probably about four months ago.

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Great girl, it was really.

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Everything was fun and exciting and saw it was all going where I would hope for it to go, and what really broke us off was that she was not willing to participate in cult-like activities.

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Cult-like activities yeah, I have a lot of friend groups.

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I have a lot of friend groups and you know a lot of us do super different styles of things.

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I mean, we utilize all modalities, whether it's radical, honest feedback or, you know, sound healing and breathwork ceremonies, all of which seemed a bit cultish to her, and when I realized that she was not open to growth and evolution based around communities, it was super red flaggy.

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How long did that relationship last?

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It lasted.

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We were only in like a month and a half.

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Oh, okay, okay.

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Yeah.

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What has been your longest relationship?

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Good Lord, I've got a high school sweetheart.

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That's probably been.

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I was 15, I'm 28, and she's still around.

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What so you see each other once in a booty call.

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I keep my heart open for her.

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She's showed me so many qualities that disqualify her from ever being my wife.

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Really Like what, yeah, yeah.

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Just I would say not.

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Let's see how can I put this.

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I would say she prioritizes our love when she's feeling in the season and when she's not feeling in it she's completely disassociated from it.

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She's like get out of my hair and I can't do the back and forth Like let's work through it.

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Let's talk about it.

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I'm fully open for anything that it needs to be and I don't want to be.

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I don't want to be a sometimes option.

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You want to be an always Right and you and you want to get married.

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Do you want to have kids too?

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Yeah, you want it all.

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Yeah, I would.

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I would love to have it all now, and I'm also not rushing anything just allowing and trusting.

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So describe your ideal woman, your perfect partner perfect partner.

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She's creative, she's intelligent, she is fun, she's friendly, she is um.

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I, if we're, if we're talking real ideal here, I would say she's fit, she is um, agile, she's mobile, she is adventurous.

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Um, what about physical attributes?

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Physical attributes, um, you know, I think fitness is like a huge one for me.

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I'm not.

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I find beauty in most, all people, so, irregardless of you know, color and size, anything like that, it's more of, uh, I'm more of, I'm more for the inside nice and you had told us a story about a hitchhiker or you picked someone up or they picked you up.

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Do you remember that story that he told us on the phone call.

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Yeah, I think I think you're referring to the time when I there was four women that I picked up.

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Oh, that's right now it's coming back when you say four women.

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Now, it's coming back to me.

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Um well, I I was in Encinitas and I saw this group of girls that were like, clearly like making signals and gestures at me in the van, which the van I mean it looks nice, it's got a lift kit, wheels and tires, like it looks pretty good.

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You can tell it's not like super creepy.

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But are there windows or are there not windows?

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Not really I mean I've got limo tint on the front too, so those are black, and then the back it's all vinyl, so completely murdered.

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Hilarious.

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And they're making clear gestures and I'm like those girls, like it's a long shot, but I'm going to turn around and see what they got going on.

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So I turned around and I rolled the window down.

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I was going the direction that they were walking and I asked them.

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I was like hey, this is going to look really creepy, but I swear I'm a totally normal dude.

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If you guys need a ride, I can take you that direction.

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And one of them approached the window, as the other three were like no, no no she approached the window.

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She's like dude, he's normal and they got in, they did trusting little souls really.

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You didn't even have to offer like puppies or candy so they got in they did.

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They got in and then we went to another bar and we had a great night and one of them was very cute and into me, so we had fun time in the van.

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So then the next day you just dropped her off and did you ever see her again?

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No.

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She was visiting A one night stand in the van.

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One night stand in the van so do you have any crazy date stories or disaster date stories?

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Have you been catfished?

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Oh hell yeah, Really yeah.

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The apps are number one for catfishing.

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I feel like I've only been catfished on the apps.

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That's why you've deleted them, never to return again.

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That's funny.

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I used to love the apps, but I feel like they do really falsify a person's psychology of how much they're actually putting an effort into locating a partner, because you can swipe and convince yourself that, like I'm looking for somebody right now but you're not.

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You're not doing nothing, you're not doing yourself any favors, especially in the context of the fact that maybe you might like their physical attributes but, their their person, the way that they be, is completely something you don't even align with.

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Yeah, I feel like just as much as like the younger generation coming up being minimalist, I feel like your lifestyle would also lend itself to dating older women who grew up in like that hippie era where it was like cool to live in vans.

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you know what I mean, are you into?

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older women.

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Have you ever dated older women only?

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well, except for my most recent relationship.

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She was younger than me, but I've only dated older women.

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Okay, why?

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What do you prefer?

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older women, there's usually a mental aptitude.

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Um, I don't.

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I'm not huge into like wanting to teach someone things.

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I actually enjoy being taught things by my partner, so that's kind of the dynamic there.

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So what are your hobbies?

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What do you do for fun?

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I'm a musician.

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What do you play, guitar?

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Guitar and sing.

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That's probably a panty dropper.

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Does that get the girls?

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It helps.

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What kind of music do you sing?

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What's your go-to karaoke song?

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My favorites love songs, but I cover about 300 songs, mostly country.

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A lot of songs sound country coming out of me so it's kind of just my go-to genre.

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But I do a lot of Ed Sheeran songs, a lot of Chris Stapleton.

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Do you do open mic nights or do you play anywhere locally?

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Yeah, I play some local gigs.

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There's a hotel in the Biltmore area that I play at every month.

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What hotel?

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Oh, we're going to have to go the.

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AC.

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Oh, I know the AC.

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Really we should go you should let us know.

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We'll be our number one fans.

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Yeah, perfect, I have a gig on the 17th do you?

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oh cool, yeah, we'll have to go.

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Yeah, I totally forgot about the guitar thing.

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We should have had you bring it today absolutely so what are?

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your deal breakers deal breakers um unwillingness to grow and no fitness, too much drinking, I would say those would probably be it, and maybe lack of intelligence, to be honest.

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Do you drink at all, or is?

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It just something you don't find super attractive you don't find super attractive.

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Well, over the last couple months, my job, so I was a realtor at an investment property brokerage where I was having really challenging phone calls with real estate agents every day because I basically had to shoot them like a shit lowball offer and it was not that fun and I had to like explain here's why my number is what the number is and I did not enjoy having the phone calls so I found that taking the edge off was very supportive and happy hour aligned with about the same time.

00:18:37.922 --> 00:18:42.825
So I was going and getting a picture of IPAs every single day.

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It got to the point where I was like, okay, I'm relying on this substance to alter my state in order to do this, and I was doing it so much that I just did not.

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It wasn't sitting well with me.

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So over the last couple weeks I've been, excuse me, disassociating from it, but I love to do it in celebratory fashion.

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I just don't love to be reliant on it.

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Yeah for sure I think so, and I think people do that with dating too.

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They have a couple of drinks to take the edge off, and then it tends to turn them into someone who they're truly not.

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So I think I agree with that deal breaker of of not drinking too much for sure are you ready for?

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So this week's listener question I broke up with my girlfriend because I needed space and also because she didn't laugh at my puns.

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But that's besides the point.

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Now here's the problem.

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Every time I see her talking to another guy, my stomach twists like a pretzel and suddenly I'm irrationally convinced that this dude is smoother than a fresh jar of peanut butter.

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Why do I feel this way?

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I don't want to be with her, but I also don't want anyone else to be with her.

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Is this normal?

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Or am I just a selfish man child who needs a reality check?

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Or does it mean that I still love her?

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Help me before I accidentally bump into her next date and challenge him to a duel of trivia, because I'm not much of a fighter.

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I hate men like that.

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I've dated guys in the past where they break up with you but then they don't want.

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They don't want you, but they don't want you to be with anyone else.

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I feel like, is this how your little high school sweetheart is?

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You know you guys have broken up, but she doesn't want to see you with anybody else 100%.

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Is it Interesting that this question came up?

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It's not that she has a stigma around that, but she would love to keep me in her pocket.

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Yeah, you know what I mean.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, keep me in her pocket.

00:21:00.770 --> 00:21:01.251
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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I feel like social media also plays a huge role in this because, you know, it's like when you still have so much access to people from your past, so much access to their life, you're seeing them with other people.

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You know they are posting these things only the good things, right and so you think you think, oh well, it didn't work out with this person.

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Now they're with someone else and they're doing x, y and z, when they didn't do it with me, I don't know, and people are very guilty of posting pictures with members of the opposite sex to make their exes jealous.

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Yes, look at me, I'm surrounded by a bevy of beauties you?

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Know, just to get that reaction, just to get them maybe to reach out.

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Uh-huh, yeah, I don't know.

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I think it takes time every breakup.

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It's gonna hurt if you see them with someone else initially right, because you spend so much time together, but I think time is the healer of all wounds right, yeah but maybe, if he's still thinking about her a year later, maybe give it another go yeah, I don't know I'm, I'm a, I'm a cutter like once I'm done, once I'm done with the relationship.

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It's like there's never it's over, there's never another chance, I've never gone back to an ex.

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I haven't when it's done, I am done, I'm checked out.

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I'm the same way.

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I am the same way I'm kind of a believer that if you you truly love someone and you truly care about them, you would would never break up with them, right I?

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don't know.

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I've had those who I've had to just have that hard stop with, while at the same time there's some that I do appreciate being able to keep the door open for, not in a relationship position, but more so just one where they could call me if they had a flat tire at midnight in the middle of nowhere.

00:22:45.477 --> 00:22:47.121
Yeah, and trust I would show up.

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Yeah, I've, I've dated guys casually that I where it, where you know we went on a few dates or we hung out for a couple of months but it never evolved into a full blown, very serious relationship.

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And those types of people I will keep in touch with because we have both agreed you know it's not going to work out as a long-term thing, but you know maybe there's friendship, energy or there's, you know they're just like a really good person or whatever.

00:23:17.018 --> 00:23:27.430
So where you keep sort of this stay in contact type of relationship, not necessarily open for a romantic relationship.

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But in terms of all of my long-term, long-term relationships that have not worked out, I can't, I have to just cut those and move, move on like yeah, we hear about like on the bachelor, where they choose the wrong person, they propose to one girl and then he changes his mind.

00:23:46.631 --> 00:23:50.901
Like in my opinion, you can't really feel strongly about either girl, right?

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Because if you did, wouldn't you know which one is meant for you?

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You?

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Would have that strong feeling that you wouldn't make the right choice, right the wrong choice.

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Sorry, yeah, you would think so although I feel like in those situations it's different because you don't really get to spend that much time with each person.

00:24:05.181 --> 00:24:14.885
So so now I saw a funny tiktok video where the creator was asking its viewers to describe your ex as a brand.

00:24:14.885 --> 00:24:17.635
Okay, so here are some funny ones.

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Tommy, he'll figure, because he'll figure out a way to lie about anything.

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Dollar general, because he didn't have a dollar in general netflix, because I shared him with five other girls and I'm the only one paying.

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I feel like that's true, that's good ikea, because every time I just go home and do it myself.

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Twitter, because now he's my ex Walmart everyone's been in it.

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Make a wish because I was doing charity work.

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Brand baby.

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He was thrift Ross because I settled for less.

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I was gonna say that's many of my exes super dry because, honey, I was hello kitty, because he said hello to every kitty.

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That's again another one of my exes.

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As a shoe girly I have to say pay less, pay less.

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You know what I'm talking about builder bear, because I built that man apple, always updated but somehow never changed cvs, because I have hella receipts, victoria's Secret, because Victoria is his secret.

00:25:22.140 --> 00:25:28.955
And then my husband and I were talking about, you know, making our own up and mine was Sheen, because everything runs small.

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I saw that one on TikTok too, and they said Timu as well, oh, timu, but yeah, item not as pictured.

00:25:35.589 --> 00:25:37.715
That is funny item, not as pictured.

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Or another one I thought of this morning, tampax, because he's always up himself.

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And then my husband was like Goodwill because it's been handed down over and over again.

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So what about you guys?

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Can you?

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think of one.

00:25:54.112 --> 00:25:56.134
Oh my Payless, yeah Payless.

00:25:56.134 --> 00:25:59.858
It's hard to think of on the spot, it is it is especially afterless, yeah, payless.

00:25:59.878 --> 00:26:00.900
It's hard to think of on the spot it is.

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It is especially after those.

00:26:01.560 --> 00:26:02.162
Those are hard to follow.

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I know Tommy Hilfiger is good, he'll figure out, or Aliyah.

00:26:08.851 --> 00:26:11.179
Aliyah, you know a little more high end, but he's Aliyah.

00:26:11.179 --> 00:26:15.320
So no, I have some rapid fire questions I want to ask you about the van life.

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So where's the weirdest place you've parked overnight?

00:26:19.423 --> 00:26:19.663
most.

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All of them are weird.

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You never know what's gonna wake you up in the middle of the night have you ever had a like horror nighttime story, being woken up by something or someone?

00:26:29.448 --> 00:26:43.017
no, it's mostly just disturbances, be it a train or traffic, that you didn't really account for before you went to sleep and then you wake up to like a damn highway you've never had anyone bang on your window uh, just one time, yeah.

00:26:43.017 --> 00:26:49.556
The guy said, hey, can't park here, this is, we're having church sorry, how funny.

00:26:50.557 --> 00:26:54.222
Um, what's the most creative home improvement hack in your van?

00:26:54.222 --> 00:26:56.034
A sink made from a salad bowl.

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Bed that doubles as a storage unit.

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Solar powered coffee maker I have none.

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It's the most simplistic build of all time.

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I put only the essentials because I'm a dude yeah so it's not.

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It's not dressed up to be cute it's very.

00:27:11.898 --> 00:27:13.201
It's very functional.

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Only it is it's cute a bit, it's not dressed to impress what's the best meal you've ever cooked in your van?

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do you cook in your van?

00:27:20.313 --> 00:27:31.991
heck no no, no you don't have a hot plate or anything no, I actually don't, because I found it's extremely efficient for me to not have to purchase groceries and try and worry about the food situation.

00:27:31.991 --> 00:27:33.974
So I only eat out.

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What do you eat out?

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I eat only things that are Probably cousins to Chipotle.

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So it's always a bowl.

00:27:43.986 --> 00:27:46.971
I eat meat, fruits and veggies Like that's about it.

00:27:48.465 --> 00:27:49.530
How do you deal with bad weather?

00:27:49.530 --> 00:27:50.910
We kind of talked about this.

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Yeah, double blankets.

00:27:53.310 --> 00:27:56.592
Yeah, strangest encounter you've had on the road.

00:27:58.845 --> 00:28:03.529
Strangest encounter I've had on the road, while driving, while parked.

00:28:04.875 --> 00:28:09.393
Either, I mean the four girls is probably while driving.

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That's a pretty good one.

00:28:12.684 --> 00:28:14.310
We've talked about van life romance.

00:28:14.310 --> 00:28:17.673
One last one If your van had a theme song, what would it be?

00:28:17.673 --> 00:28:20.113
On the road again, living on a prayer.

00:28:20.865 --> 00:28:22.372
Hell yeah, living on a prayer Really.

00:28:23.926 --> 00:28:28.951
And one more actually, what's the one thing you miss about normal life or living in?

00:28:28.971 --> 00:28:34.987
a house or an apartment, climate control and running water do you have a refrigerator in your van?

00:28:34.987 --> 00:28:36.169
No no.

00:28:36.509 --> 00:28:43.190
So when you go out to eat you, you order exactly what you're going to eat for that meal, because you don't take any leftovers.

00:28:43.250 --> 00:28:46.836
God, that would be hard man, I don't know if I could do it.

00:28:46.836 --> 00:28:50.242
I've got a system and I I run it every day.

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Interesting so now it's time for the celebrity cut, where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.

00:28:56.865 --> 00:29:00.453
So did you hear that pr story about blake lively?

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You know how she's getting so much hate?

00:29:01.978 --> 00:29:04.875
So she wants to repair her image.

00:29:04.875 --> 00:29:18.138
So she wanted to work at a donut shop because she loves to bake and so she convinced this Connecticut donut shop to allow her to come in and serve donuts and have a camera crew there.

00:29:18.138 --> 00:29:20.930
And the donut shop was very reluctant.

00:29:20.930 --> 00:29:27.970
But apparently the owner loves Deadpool so they reluctantly agreed and now they're getting so much flack.

00:29:27.970 --> 00:29:31.526
So there are all these pictures and videos of her serving these donuts.

00:29:31.526 --> 00:29:33.933
But her hair, you know she has long like wavy hair.

00:29:33.973 --> 00:29:40.971
It's down like dangling in the donuts yes, and she gets a lot of hate.

00:29:40.971 --> 00:29:46.099
Anyways, because of the situation and so people were, just they went off.

00:29:46.099 --> 00:29:47.769
How gross is it?

00:29:47.769 --> 00:29:49.933
Her hair's probably shedding into those donuts.

00:29:49.933 --> 00:29:54.477
So bad that now the donut shop is under investigation from the health department.

00:29:54.744 --> 00:29:56.633
Because she wasn't wearing a hairnet.

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I guess that's a big no-no.

00:29:59.644 --> 00:30:01.612
There's some Blake Lively fans out there that would pay extra for those donuts.

00:30:01.612 --> 00:30:02.134
Probably, probably.

00:30:02.134 --> 00:30:04.643
Her hair is so long and it was like oh, there's some Blake Lively fans out there that would pay extra for those donuts.

00:30:04.663 --> 00:30:17.618
Probably, probably, probably Her hair is so long and it was like, oh, but it's kind of sad because that donut shop, because she has so many haters, people were going to all of their pages and giving them bad reviews, one-star reviews.

00:30:17.618 --> 00:30:18.541
Don't go here.

00:30:18.962 --> 00:30:19.464
It's nasty.

00:30:20.006 --> 00:30:23.696
Creating stories to bring this donut shop down and it's sad.

00:30:31.984 --> 00:30:33.127
It's not the donut shop's fault, right?

00:30:33.147 --> 00:30:33.628
you know, poor donut shop.

00:30:33.628 --> 00:30:35.595
I know I was gonna say poor Blake Lively, but she sort of made her bed like she made.

00:30:35.595 --> 00:30:38.803
She bought this on herself she did she did so.

00:30:38.803 --> 00:30:41.608
What is your favorite place to go on a first date?

00:30:43.451 --> 00:30:52.477
here lately I've been utilizing a tool of a simplistic first date over something sophisticated, where I try to ball out an impressor.

00:30:52.477 --> 00:31:00.631
You know I've been favorite place currently is to just go for a hike, go for a walk wilderness.

00:31:01.073 --> 00:31:01.535
The wilderness.

00:31:02.346 --> 00:31:05.394
Have you been called low effort by anybody?

00:31:05.394 --> 00:31:06.116
Have you had?

00:31:06.116 --> 00:31:07.347
Have you gotten feedback?

00:31:07.548 --> 00:31:13.909
feedback either way no, and it's something I it's a new thing that I've been trying on for size.

00:31:13.909 --> 00:31:20.548
We actually we talk a lot about relationships in my community and something we have.

00:31:20.749 --> 00:31:24.054
We, we're technically a men's group, we call it a book club.

00:31:24.054 --> 00:31:31.852
We read a book as a group of men, but lately we've been integrating women in as well.

00:31:31.852 --> 00:31:45.215
So we'll congregate separately, men and women, and talk about our discoveries within the book, and then we all join together and talk afterwards about, you know, collectively, what did we all gather?

00:31:45.215 --> 00:31:54.911
And, um, you know, one of the things that has been brought up is first dates, obviously, and from the women in our container.

00:31:54.911 --> 00:32:02.717
Um, some of the feedback was you know, we, we try to ball out on these first dates and it seems like a lot of them are a loss.

00:32:03.125 --> 00:32:03.548
So, like?

00:32:03.689 --> 00:32:06.883
what are our women's take on?

00:32:06.883 --> 00:32:26.596
Doing something more simplistic and most of the time, from what they say, it is a more welcoming space to not have all that pressure and it allows you to kind of just be free and be open and actually discover the other person so no, to answer your question shortly.

00:32:26.967 --> 00:32:47.046
It's like this huge debate online, right, cause there's like the list of things, like cause that's I prefer a coffee date or an ice cream date or something like that, that that is more simplistic, where you can just focus on getting to know the other person versus spending, you know, all this elaborate time and money and it takes.

00:32:47.046 --> 00:32:49.810
So you know it and I I get it.

00:32:49.810 --> 00:33:04.817
It does show effort if you're putting in the time and the investment, but I don't know, I think there's something to be said about like a more low key, just like especially for a very, very first date, and especially if you meet them online.

00:33:04.916 --> 00:33:08.804
yeah, you don't know if you're going to be catfished, yes, or if they're going to be anything like their profile.

00:33:09.085 --> 00:33:34.170
So I think, for a first date something more simple and quick, yeah I agree, I agree I'm there for the discovery of the person you know so I I am cautious of what I do, also, being a musician, like I've found, if I take my guitar on the first date, things can get all wonky because you know she gets this idea and I already have this idea, so now we just jump into things that we wouldn't have otherwise.

00:33:34.170 --> 00:33:44.108
So I make sure to walk through the threshold of discovering the person prior to like actually making a commitment you want to lay all your cards out on the table on the first date?

00:33:44.128 --> 00:33:44.911
yeah, so you.

00:33:45.230 --> 00:33:46.713
So you said you're in a runner's club.

00:33:46.713 --> 00:33:47.635
Is that to meet women?

00:33:47.635 --> 00:33:51.414
We've heard that a lot of women now are joining these runners club just to meet men.

00:33:52.499 --> 00:33:53.682
They do work great for that.

00:33:53.682 --> 00:33:57.351
I actually started doing it as a networking activity.

00:33:57.351 --> 00:34:05.936
I mean, I'm a runner anyways, so it was kind of in conjunction, but I was definitely utilizing it as a network opportunity at first.

00:34:07.726 --> 00:34:11.175
Now it's time for the naughtiest segment of the show the meat grab.

00:34:11.175 --> 00:34:13.606
Are you down for the challenge, Up for the grab, Willing to share?

00:34:13.606 --> 00:34:14.731
Pick one if you dare.

00:34:15.885 --> 00:34:17.833
Some are innocent some are not so innocent.

00:34:18.744 --> 00:34:19.748
I hope it's a spicy one.

00:34:22.876 --> 00:34:33.186
Okay, just the white label.

00:34:33.186 --> 00:34:34.731
Yeah, it says have you ever turned down a sexual opportunity and regretted it?

00:34:34.731 --> 00:34:37.059
Nah, if I'm turning it down, that's with pure intention.

00:34:37.139 --> 00:34:43.972
I would say yeah, have you ever had a sexual encounter that you regretted after the fact?

00:34:43.972 --> 00:34:48.056
Plenty, really, why?

00:34:48.056 --> 00:34:49.277
What are some of the reasons why?

00:34:49.297 --> 00:35:05.878
Um, usually, you know, I'm very I'm very selective with that energetic exchange because to me, I get to carry that around and also, um, sex is usually a good activity, a good end result for me.

00:35:05.878 --> 00:35:16.115
So sometimes, you know, it gets you in a situation where that person's following you around for the next month and it's like, hey, I wasn't trying to sign up for this.

00:35:16.545 --> 00:35:18.331
Sharon's got the ladies dickmatized.

00:35:20.525 --> 00:35:22.351
Dickmatized chasing after that van man.

00:35:24.166 --> 00:35:25.190
Chasing down my van.

00:35:28.085 --> 00:35:34.335
Do you have any embarrassing sex stories or has anything happened to you in the bedroom that was embarrassing?

00:35:35.425 --> 00:35:39.757
First thing that comes to mind is being walked in on, and that kind of thing sucks.

00:35:39.757 --> 00:35:41.090
Yeah by your parents.

00:35:41.925 --> 00:35:43.612
I was going to say was that pre-van.

00:35:44.045 --> 00:35:45.512
Yeah, that was definitely pre-van.

00:35:46.126 --> 00:35:48.635
Those were more younger years where I was sneaking around.

00:35:48.925 --> 00:35:50.590
How big is the bed in your van?

00:35:51.032 --> 00:35:52.014
Teeny tiny, Is it?

00:35:52.125 --> 00:35:57.184
I was going to say it has to be tough, the van has to put a little damper on the sex life, I would imagine.

00:35:57.204 --> 00:36:00.094
It's kind of honestly, it's more of a stand-up situation.

00:36:05.985 --> 00:36:06.606
It's a pretty tight little bit.

00:36:06.606 --> 00:36:06.867
That's funny.

00:36:06.867 --> 00:36:07.509
Do you have any other questions?

00:36:07.509 --> 00:36:07.728
I don't.

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Do you have any other questions or anything else you want to say?

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I don't know that I do well.

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Oh my God, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.